Fibromyalgia Support Group
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My wife has been going through a particularly difficult time over the past several months. The result of all of this is that she feels like she is at the end of her rope. She feels numb and disconnected from her body ... even though it continues to generate pain constantly. She has told me several times in the past couple of weeks that she doesn't even know who she is any more. She feels like a complete stranger. She wonders why she has to endure this. She has had a persistant crushing headache for the past week. Tylenol and Excedrin don't do much at all. She can't take Ibuprofin due to allergies and a dose of Naproxin several years ago nearly killed her due to the reaction it created in her body. She feels like giving up and keeps apologizing to me about how "I'm stuck living my life with a crazy, broken, defective woman." Her libido is out the window and her comments to me range from indifferent to mean at times. I love her very much and want to help her through this difficult time. The doctors are clueless and just keep offering Rx meds in the hope that "something" will work.
I do what I can. I massage her feet, legs, arms, and back. I have started to do even more of the house work because I can see how uncomfortable she is. She has been very tired over the past week as well. The spark of life has gone from her eyes. She feels like staying in bed all day and disconnecting herself from life ... just veg in bed. She realizes that this can't be done but it is how she feels.
I'm at a loss ... I'm hurting because she is hurting and it doesn't seem like there is anything anyone can do to help. At the same time, my 17 year old son is struggling with depression. His grades are slipping badly at school and he doesn't seem to have any motivation to do much but goof around and waste time. I'm also doing my best to help my younger two children complete their school work so they can do well in schoo. One of my step-daughters is getting a divorce and all of this is just piling on the stress for both my wife and I. I have been on the verge of tears for the past few days. Any advice is welcom.
I do what I can. I massage her feet, legs, arms, and back. I have started to do even more of the house work because I can see how uncomfortable she is. She has been very tired over the past week as well. The spark of life has gone from her eyes. She feels like staying in bed all day and disconnecting herself from life ... just veg in bed. She realizes that this can't be done but it is how she feels.
I'm at a loss ... I'm hurting because she is hurting and it doesn't seem like there is anything anyone can do to help. At the same time, my 17 year old son is struggling with depression. His grades are slipping badly at school and he doesn't seem to have any motivation to do much but goof around and waste time. I'm also doing my best to help my younger two children complete their school work so they can do well in schoo. One of my step-daughters is getting a divorce and all of this is just piling on the stress for both my wife and I. I have been on the verge of tears for the past few days. Any advice is welcom.
@misunshine: my wife has tried the pain killers when the pain is really bad. I takes about a half hour for them to kick in, she feels ok for about an hour, then gets sleepy and needs to take a nap. The nap will last about two hours and when she wakes up she feels like she's been kicked in the head by a mule. The splitting headache is crushing after taking those meds. They are a last resort thing.. (I also have a problem with Rx pain meds because they are very addicting. My older brother became addicted to them and OD'd about a year ago.)
I feel like submitting myself to a mental health faciilty and just shutting down for a couple of weeks. My mind feels overloaded .... I can tell I'm really stressed because my jaw hurts (I clinch my teeth when I'm stressed).
All the meds the doctors were giving me were increasing the depression which made the pain and migraines worse. Look close to what meds she is taking.
She is definitely depressed and feeling burned out on life.