your at the right place and finally you met soomeone that knows how you feel my husband matt has FAS and sumtimes the up and down with the attitude is hard to deal with so what i do is make sure he takes his meds and i have to control my emotons because when he sees me get emotinal its hard for him to controll his emotions i owould just....well what i did weith my fam is wehen iut started affecting my fam i just consitrated on matt the family that i wanted to create as far as our animals they r ourt kids and sumtimes he says things that he dont mnean your daughter will say and do things that you wwont know where they r coming form sumtimes then it will fall down and get better for a while is she on any meds like prozac if u wanna mewssage me u can hoope this helps

Hi, I am visiting here from the Adult ADHD group. GOOD ON YOU, to reach out! I have always had the disorder, before they had these identifying labels. I hope you don't give up for both your own and your young ones sake. If you think it sucks, imagine being in her shoes. I was suicidal by the time I wasn't much older than her,..the pressure to live up to expectations that a developmentally delayed person can have, especially when she(he) is often oblivious to comprehending what the expectations even are really sucks! My grand-daughter may also have some issues, as my daughter was very young, and didn't know she was pregnant. We just watch her and speak openly to trusted allies ie. teachers, doctors, ECE teachers in the daycare, so that there is monitoring, identification, and communication of potential issues. My Mother drank with me, and my daughter also drank with (my-grand) daughter, whom is in my care. I have recently reached out to the children's hospital for referral to a permanent pediatrician to help me, as I am always concerned that due to my own challenges I might miss something without educated professionals around. I also have input from social workers, and find that helpful, it was one of these wonderful ladies that pointed out that she thinks that much of my own ADHD is likely FASD, as my history would give evidence for it. Calm, stable, dependable, routines that my adoptive parents had for me made all the difference. I am sure of this, now as I look back. There are lots of books, and check through public health, in addition to mental health as they might direct you toward education, peer support, and medical support. Being calm, objective, and about a hundred times more repetitively reinforcing and encouraging of positive behavioural actions than you would with any child I think helps. My adoptive parents were dragged to hell and back with my challenging (mis)behaviours, especially through adolescence, and only in my thirties(as I started growing out of adolescence),
did I start to gain real functioning living skills that others get much younger. When I was younger, I, personally found that on-going cognitive-behavioral & life-skill development therapy with a psychiatrist and various community counselling programs really helped; it takes a lot of assessments to be filtered in the right direction, but I truly believe it helped me, and in turn, my family, as I learned to function better. My parents REALLY did a good job of teaching me NOT to consume alcohol or other substances, that would surely cause more problems. I hope and pray for you that you find the strength & resources you require to get you through, hang in there. Luv, Priscilla.