Female Sexual Issues Support Group

Sexual dysfunction or sexual malfunction is difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (which includes desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) that prevents the individual or couple from enjoying sexual activity. Sexual dysfunction disorders are generally classified into four categories: sexual desire disorders, sexual arousal disorders, orgasm disorders, and sexual...

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Christinaki 01/02/2013

I initiated my sex life about 3 months ago (almost 4). I only did it for about a week and I don't have sex since mid september now.

I was a virgin and first times were very painful to me. I was bleeding until the morning after my first time and I felt sore for a couple more days.

I had sex everyday for 7 days in a row.. then I stopped and never did it again. I am not in a relationship, it is a long story anyway

What matters is, ever since that, aside from having my period normal, I get blood on my toilet paper when cleaning myself sometimes.. it's not like a lot, but small drops.. and I don't know where it comes from.. I also feel "itchy" sometimes and other times my labia hurts and I feel sore, just like I did when I first had sex...

These problems only showed up after I had sex, never had this before. Is it possible I have some kind of problem or infection? We didn't use a condom all the time, so is it possible he passed me some diasease?

I haven't seen a doctor yet, after this happened because I am kind of ashamed :( I also seem to have lost any sexual desire I might had before.. before sex I used to think about it and I masturbated and had orgasms and everything, now I just lost it, I try sometimes but I can't do it and I don't orgasm anymore (and I didn't orgasm during sex either) ..

Anyone has/had any similar problems and can advice on what to do? I feel like the whole loss of sexual desire could be a huge problem in a future relationship, since I could say I don't really like sex and it isn't pleasant for me .. maybe it's me or the person I was with really did suck LOL

The truth is I don't crave sex anymore, as I did before I tried it, cause it only caused me pain, bleeding and heartbreak.. nothing good at all ..

Anyway thanks :)

deleted_user 01/28/2013

sounds like you have an std. i would see a doctor asap.

deleted_user 01/29/2013

I don't think that you have any disease.You should take care about your lower part and must be clean.Sometimes it can be hurt during sex. You must consult with specialist doctor.You will fine.

drbeaker 01/31/2013

Any ongoing bleeding, aside from your normal period, should be investigated by a doctor.

aussiechick 01/31/2013

yes i have had the same problem...and if you know your partners sexual past and you know 100% you have been safe having sex its not a std.....i know 100% mine is not but the skin around the vagina is very sensitive and you may have a yeast infection every though you may not have the classic symptoms.....try putting a barrier cream on the entrance to protect it from things like urine and blood....even when you wipe it will cause friction and that make it more painful.....i use to put a barrier cream there up to 7 times a day..i have had this problem for over 3 years and am still dealing with it....it does get better and you need a partner who knows the problem and is understanding because sex can take alot longer...also try find lube that is very natural..this will sound very funny but olive oil is the best....it works wonders....just keep in mind to keep all irritation away from the area....and maybe get a doc to look at the yeast infection.....good luck i know what you are going through

deleted_user 02/28/2013

hi im new here , I have been having pain during intercourse now for about 3 yrs seen 2 gyn last one said she thinks there is something wrong with my bladder . its just aggravating .

drbeaker 02/28/2013

aussiechick, the only way you can be 100% sure, without a test, is if you were both virgins and you both have had NO other sexual contact (including oral sex) with anyone else. In any other situation, no matter how well your know your parter, an STI *is* a possibility.

deleted_user 03/03/2013

There is absolutely no shame in going to see a doctor and you should do so if you have not already. I understand that problems involving your sex life can be hard to talk about but it is important to get the treatment you need. Being a medical professional I can assure you that no physician is going to pass judgment about your problem. Also the fact that sex did not feel good initially is not a surprise. Sex can be painful at first especially if you are having it as frequently as you described.

In regard to losing your sexual desire, there is hope for the future. The problem might not be that you don't like having sex but that you have not found the right partner. Every partner is a different experience so don't worry about future relationships. Your sex life could still have a very bright future!

LoriLee66 03/11/2013

anytime someone has unprotected sex there's always a chance of an STD and in women the symptoms are always subtle. don't be afraid to see your doctor. an untreated STD often leads to infertility in women and even if it's nothing, a good doctor should be able to give you some good advice.

deleted_user 03/15/2013

IDK Sounds like he wasnt very good to you and wasnt good in bed either.
So flush it ! wipe it a way, start over.

deleted_user 03/16/2014

Using baby wipes instead of toilet paper or flushable moist wipes designed for wiping yourself might help reduce the irritation to your labia. Also wiping properly from front to back of the vagina can help prevent irritation and infection.

deleted_user 03/30/2014

I think baby wipes is a good idea and so is the doctor. Don't be shy about going. you could have a little tear from sex down there that needs attention

JammieGirl 04/06/2014

Having sex that is very painful can really take a toll on your sex drive. When sex becomes associated with pain instead of pleasure your body can just decide it doesn't want that anymore, thank you very much.

Were you in a position to ask your partner to slow down/stop? If not, you also might not have felt safe, which would have contributed to the pain.

The blood may be related to a disease or injury, or it could be psychosomatic. My body did that for ages after a rape, and then I told someone, and the spotting stopped. It may be hard for anyone to believe, but it seemed almost as though my vagina was crying tears of blood. And then I told and got support, and I promised to try to keep it safe and treat it gently. The bleeding stopped and it didn't hurt so much.

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