Have you talked to your doctor, or tried to figure out why sex doesn't feel good to you?

I am. Just the thought of it makes me panic.

It can be a scary thought.. You are giving part of yourself to someone, and with women.. we also associate sex with love a lot.


I am afraid to have sex now. If I date a guy and he is interested.. I feel overwhelmed, I panic.
And I enjoy sex..
I also don't see myself as sexual, I don't like when guys see me as sexual. I would rather them see as a person, and like me as a person, instead of being attracted to me as sexual.

I am the total opposite love to talk about sex with a man its so exciting and makes me feel good. I am open so I do not get bothered by it.

If I am in a relationship with a guy, and we are talking about to get turned in that's fine. Or just talking about Ike adults is fine.
I don't like dirty talk.

That's not a bad thing. Sex references or jokes make me uncomfortable too. It makes me feel like an object. I don't believe in sex before marriage and ive had boyfriends that had problems with that.

I've talked to my doc and he basically told me I need more experience

What sort of feelings does it bring up? Sometimes experience can help, but it depends on why you feel uncomfortable.

Is it everything, or just aspects of sex and talking about sex?

Did you feel ok about posting here or was it really difficult? Obviously a lot of people can relate, so you're not alone in this, and it is possible to change things with the right information and support.

It's not crazy, and you don't even have to change it unless you really want to. Not participating in sexual things is also a completely valid option.