FANTASY LAND Community Group
For anyone with thoughts of sex.....whether you are going through a dry spell, in a sexless marriage, alone at the moment or in a perfect relationship ...... Here you can share something you may desperately miss, or desire to try, a question you are curious about, or something bizarre you want to see how many of us even know what it is.... for all our curious minds...
I keep going over the words in that song--
You can't always get what you want-- you get what you need!
I have gotten support, encouragement and confidence from many. I believe I have also helped and given to others as well. In the end though-- I think all I do is help some guys get off and then go back to their lives, and families. I will always continue to care about and try to help others-- it is just who I am.
In the end though, I hear and see so many moving on or simply otherwise content with all else in their lives. I am feeling like I will never get what I want or need. I have noone to truly open up to- who wants to know and tell me everything he also thinks about. No sex (except left with just toys) and even then-- am unable to quite reach that full blown big O.
I now hear the words from stbx alot-- I love you pookie bear, So very sickening sweet ( and probably well intentioned) .. But as so much resentment has built in me that translates to (Thanks for being my beckon call girl and staying and waiting on me hand and foot) I work full time and come home exhausted and am guilted into doing for him.
Long ago I would feel like I was not entitled to a life of my own. I am creeping back to that point again. Several years back I did finally realize I too have wants and NEEDS -- but it does not matter so much as they are unattainable (in the real world. )
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I have toys. So the ones I have not used or need any more, are gone in the trash. One of my toys is just a regular hand held massager with an attachment. The other is a real insertable toy. This morning I ordered a new toy with attachments. It is small and has a brush like attachment and the other looks like a rose with a tiny tongue. I'll get it in about 2 weeks. Rechargable and...
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I can't believe this has gone on this long. So I don't have much hope of getting a tech job, but I saw an educational job that I thought might be really good. It would have been working at a university supporting high school students who are taking college classes. I did a mock interview with a friend and prepared extensively. It was at the university that I graduated from. I was very excited...
You have done a great job in opening up conversations on subjects which many people would be too embarrassed about to talk face-to-face but give a lot of pleasure. I too have not always had what I wanted. Nearly all my big Os have been solo handjobs and even those have become less frequent since I had a bad accident causing paralysis. I have had to make the best of what I could get and to take opportunities when they come. Maybe I have been lucky in that many of the things that turn me on do not depend on someone else feeling the same way.