You don't have to see them if you don't want to. Talk to
your therapist about it.

I feel like I have to though. Like I can't not go. It's hard.

I would try to accept that this is 'their' marriage as much as you're able.....

Your dad is making 'his' decisions for 'his' reasons

Marriage is a lot of work and compromise and we often can bring our baggage into it

I get that they are your family and I imagine you love them.... If you aren't up to going for a week maybe 3-4 days.....

I would accept that they're imperfect people however you can still care about them warts and all

It's nice you're working on breaking out of a toxic cycle and working with a therapist

Big hug.... I hope if you're decision is to go that you have a nice time.......xo

Sometimes we have to cut people out of our lives especially if they are toxic towards it
it's not that you don't care about your family or being selfish its actually your self-care, your mental health
if you feel like it's not the right time then it probably isn't
now will you have to see them one day..... yes because unfortunately, they are your family
but the may thing you want to focus on right now is your self-care.

Thank you! I will definitely talk to my therapist about it.

I cut off my family. My parents were abusive, narcissistic, and extremely dysfunctional. My aunt and uncle tried to goad me into talking to my mother again repeatedly. My aunts went so far as to say she knows what she did was wrong but life is too short to hold a grudge. I explained to her that I'm not holding a grudge. And that for my mental and physical well-being, they are people that should not be in my life or anyone's life. I also told her that I will not entertain any further discussion about talking to my parents again and any messages about it would be ignored. It was one of the best things I ever did. You don't have to go and see them. Talk to your therapist about it. You don't have to do anything. You don't have an obligation to talk to the people that are related to you by blood no matter what anybody says or thinks. Sometimes the best thing you can do is to stay away from them .

soulsearcher83, I'm sorry you had to go through that.

Thank you for helping me. I do feel obligated to see them. I wish I could just tell my dad that if he wants to see me, that he needs to come out to see me. But, I know how my mother will react if I say that, and then that would be hell form my dad.

I do think that sometimes you have to make decisions that are for your well being that can be really hard to make

Firm boundaries in place etc.... These are hard to do.... I haven't seen my brother for years and I'm sad that that happened but it stopped the drama and the angst

It's a big consideration

A week is quite a while if you know you'll be miserable .... If you want to see them I would but for lesser amount of time even if it's quite a way from where you are