Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
I have been on this site for some time, new to this group, I feel like I just need to tell someone, anyone, someone who doesen't know me, or is Biased. My husband has 4 sisters and 1 brother ,none of who I am clos too. the one sister who is roughly my age ,we or so I thought ... might of struck up a friendship, that was a joke, we have been married 14 years ,been together 15 years, I dontk now how to deal with two of his sisters , the one I had just spoke about and an older one, I know mental illness runs rampant in his familiy, but it only seems to effect the sisters ,no seriously no joke, . Ive dealt with the both of them for years, tolerated the rude behavior, comments, insults ,them staring down thier nose at me ,I can handle that ,or so I thought ,I recenctly reached my breaking point just this past Feb over a stupid cell phone bill ,we found that his sister had been conning us for a long time ,to make along story short we got out and have our own phones we had given her atleast.. 1800 in the last year for the bill when it was only 89... a month ,well we were going to pay to have ours on standby until the c ontract was up , wich she was suppose to release to us last september or we wantdout , well she renewed it ,so we bailed, and said we would giveher the 100 for the stand by fees until the contract was up again well she hit the fan and went supernova her cell has bene since shut off ,she doesent work she has two kids with different fathers,shes never been married she is 37 years old, she runs with less then stellar crowd, I washed my hands with her a long time ago , and stayed out of it my H told me he would take care of it ,well she came after me via email nasty ones, I know she is mad and she got caught I blew off the emails ,no biggie. ... .sticks and stones.... but what really grates me is she askes me how I can live with myself, basically calling us losers anad how she rolls with god ,shes broken all the commandents in the last 6 months alone ,and the other sister who has had everything handed to her on a silver platter by her inlaws has now joined ranks with her sister I can handle them its my H that I am worried about ,They are both nuts if you ask me ,but how do you deal with crazy inlaws. I caled her a con artist and she hacked into my myspace I am 35 years old I have two kids , I am genuinely happy , eaasy going person ,but she is pushing me to my limits, anyone have any answers ,
I had the mother-in-law and sister-in-law from hell. They told me I was 'priviledged' to be married into such a 'special' family.
It was a complete surprise to me. MIL was a elementry school teacher and treated me like a 4th grader and excepted me to wait on her son, my now ex-husband.
My SIN law was drop dead gorgous and a snob. Often she wouldn't even acknowledge my presence at family gatherings.
My husband didn't have the balls to stand up to his family and blamed me for his chance to own a "Hooter's" Restaurant when they first came out.
My in-laws made holidays, birthdays pure hell. I curled up with a magazine and tuned them all out. I was alone in the in-law situation.
I recommend you be polite when around them but 'let them go' and ignore them. They are not going to change ... just get worse.
"Act" and don't react. Words of wisdom from my former shrink.
As far as breaking the 10 Commandments ... we all fall short of the glory of God. It can't be helped. Jesus forgives us.
What's really weird is my in laws now invite me to family gatherings, Thanksgiving and Christmas and since I've left my ex-family I have been attending these gatherings and I am no longer angry. If someone should 'slight me' I won't return. But we are all older and wiser and realize how important, especially for my kids and their cousins for families to gather in love.
Give her $150.00 which is the termination fee - unless you recently received a new phone with the renewal and call it even. Set boundaries and have your husband stick them with consequences.
Life is too short to have these type of people in your life. They aren't even worth posting about...
Stay Strong.
I have tried for may years to please my sisierinlaw
althought she is Very rich due to my family - she tells me
what to do, points finger and says do this and do that
sent mean emails especialy when parent was dying
I have auto filtered her emails but Evit invitation got through
got 6 calls and intiations to a cookout they are having
I answered politely know the first time- My anxiety has gone to
high level- I have ttried to let them go- clearly they don't care
about me- I hope they STOP-see therapis and take Klonopin