My brother hates me...and has hated me probably since I was a kid. I endured years of mild physical abuses from him and years of him acting like I was born to be some sort of slave to him. Finally this summer when my parents trying to reconcile our hatred of one another by making us ride home form vacation with one another I snapped. He began to pick at me cause I asked if he knew he was driving my boyfriend home who was in the car on the trip with us. He told me I was an idiot or mentally handicapped and just kept saying nasty shit to me about not telling him before this one exit because I thought it was common sense. He was in the car with all his stuff why when his house was on the way home would we go past it to our house...idk. He kept demeaning me until I finally said what I have wanted to say for almost two decades. "Fuck off." Now I have never cursed at my brother. Some deep part of me resents him for feeling so privileged and my parents baby him endlessly even though I'm younger by three years and were both in our twenties. He is nasty to my mom like shes a slave too.(tells her to iron his shirts, make sure his shits washed which i help with, and make sure dinners ready when he wants it) Hes probably a chauvinist or maybe just a plain asshole. I asked him why he hated me and he told me just to shut up. When we got home after this ordeal , with me in tears and have just poured my heart out the whole way home after two decades of struggling with this unprovoked hatred. My father asked him why he hated me. Its not just me who sees it. I have never done anything to him and he treats me like dirt. He told my dad he didnt. Yet he said he doesnt know why he treats me like he does and he recognizes that yeah he treats me badly. He was given the ultimatum to move out or treat me like a human being. He ignored me being alive for the past few months after that incident which i prefer. Fast forward to this week. My parents went on a cruise. I'm home alone with several responsibilities and my brother has one. My mom explained I have to basically run the whole house, medicate the animals, cook and clean because she doesnt trust my brother to do it mind you hes a 24 year old man. I got home from classes today and my brother goes "I've been doing litter all week...your turn." I explained to him I have several other things for the house I have been doing and that one job that's his he should do and he told me no arguments and walked out for work. (I work too and go to classes so its not like he goes to work and I dont so I should have to do it.)

I guess the point of all this was i needed to do a bit of venting before I swallow my pride and go and do the litter on top of a laundry list of other things. I'm sad cause my best friend has a brother whose her bestfriend. They love eachother so much...and my and my brother will never be that way. Hes told me I'm a shame to our family. He's decided i'm his maid and its getting to the point where I might move out against my parents wishes with my boyfriend of five years to get away from him. I dont want to leave my parents or have to work a ton while in school to move out but I know another blowout will force my brother out of the house which I dont think he could survive on his own with who he is. Yet I cant take a moment more of him. I know one day when my parents are gone me and my brother will no longer sustain contact. Its sad. My parents always tell me to try and be friends with him and that i know how he is not to take it personally but after so much rejection i'm at this point where I might erase him from my life when my parents are gone. :(