i'm getting really fed up with my g/f's sisters and mother.sorry this is going to be long but i need to explain the situation. first her mother. when she and her sister (g/f's aunt comes to stay they come shopping with me for stuff for the meals we usually go the day they come to visit so stuff is fresh but they dont pay anything towards it even though my g/f and i are on benefits and her mother is well off. this time we just wanted stuff for tea as they was only stopping for 2 nights. this time the bill came to nearly 60 by the time they had finished putting stuff in the shopping trolley neither of them offered any money towards it. so next time i'll get food in the day before they are not doing that again. also this time my aunt was in hospital i had all her private papers in my dinning room in bags and alot of stuff on my dinning room table i told my g/f i did not want them to go in there and if they wanted to play card games it would have to be done in the other room.my g/f and i nipped out we came back they had cleared my table putting it all in bags ready to play cards,i was angry that my g/f hadnt enough respect to tell them i didnt want them in that room. then the next day i had a important phone call to make i picked up the phone but it gave the tone our other phone was in use it was her mother using it upstairs chatting to one of her other daughters she had her mobile with her but her excuse was she has pay as you go. then a few hours later i was upstairs speaking to my brother as he is doing my aunts finances,then her mother came upstairs more or less demanding i finish talking to my brother her words was "hurry up you keep saying you will have to go but still carry on talking i want to use the phone" all she wanted it for was to cancel a test drive. i told her my brother heard her and he got off the phone quick.i found that to be extremely rude of her. but my g/f gets angry if i say anything to her about it . then theres the sisters. she went to a birthday party of her nephew its 2 and a half hours away my g/f knows i nervous on my own at night so when she went she said she wouldnt be staying overnight. by 1.30am i was going frantic so called my g/f mobile after the 2nd try she answered saying i had woke her and the whole house we had a row.then i found out from her other sister who had been there that day her other sister "insisted" my g/f stayed the night but never even thought of letting me know. when we was visiting her other sisters and this sister was there i said to my g/f we would have to get off home after tea as our dogs needed letting out and we had been there 6 hours already with a hour and half to get home.this sister nastily said to me "let her digest her tea first which will take at least a hour" now to the other sister ,she is a stirrer ,one day for a joke i logged into my g/f fb and put a joke status . i was going to tell her when she woke up and was about to delete it when this sister sends a message asking what was wrong,i immediately messaged her back explaining it was a joke . then i just deleted it . but before i had chance to tell my g/f this sister was straight on the phone telling my g/f i had been on her facebook.this caused a big row between my g/f and i .so i deleted her sister off my facebook. a few days later her mother asked me to re add her sister so i did but when i mentioned to her mum over the phone this sister hadnt accepted she told me and my g/f her sister didn't want me on her facebook because i put nasty things about my g/f on there and it upset her to read them. i was livid i told my g/f to check her facebook and to see all the status's i had put but she said it wouldnt show them if i had blocked her from seeing them. this made me even more livid she believed her sister against me so i opened my laptop went on my facebook telling my g/f to look at all my status's which would show every status i had put ,she didnt want to look so i started reading them all out.but i never even got a sorry because in her eyes her family can't do no wrong and if i dare say anything against them if they have upset me she gets angry with me. and family events she has to go to nearly every one staying over night until late the next night,i'm talking about neices and nephews birthdays(some only live a hour and a half away) a wedding last week i couldnt go as we couldnt get a dog sitter. every year alot of her family meet up at a holiday camp a hour from us so she stays two days there where she could come home and go back the next day.so this year i managed to get a dog sitter so i could go with her for two days with her family but she still insisted going for another two days . a hour away you would think we could both go there and back in a day but she kept refusing to come home when we needed to get back and let our dogs out in time. like we would agree a time to leave but then she would start playing card games with her family so we was late back. ok so alot of anger with me about this but what doesnt help she makes all these efforts to go to her family events but if i want us to go somewhere as a couple like a show or something she refuses to go unless she wants to go .even to see a film its only films she wants to see.i really dont want her mother to stay with us again after this last time . i have a mental illness and i cant handle this anymore. so does my g/f shes bi polar but she takes meds to control it my mental illness there are no meds to control it. also my g/f knows i have abandonment issues which means i can't cope well with being left on my own she knew this when she met me. if i had known she would be leaving me on my own to stay over at her families i probably wouldnt had entered into a relationship with her. my ex use to put her family first and they did live a long way away 268 miles but she would never leave me on my own to visit them unless i went with her because she understood my mental illness. i know some would think i'm being selfish and petty . but while at this wedding at 11.30pm i had someone hammering on my door then shinning a high powered torch up at my windows i rang the police i was petrified as i was on my own. i told her about it the next day when she rang. but when she came back i mentioned her cousins little girl christening as i knew this would be another overnight stay . she said she was going and thats even though she knew i might have to stay at home if we couldn't get a dog sitter and this christening is only 3 weeks after the wedding she went to. how do i approach how i feel to her without making her angry . we are in a same sex relationship.