Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
Need advise. My husband and I have been married 6 months. Started out rocky and almost ended due to his porn addiction. Things got better but we still have a huge stepchildren issue. Less than two weeks ago Brian (my husband) and I broke down a went into his 21 yr old son's room and picked up 25 dirty cups, plates with food in them, prob 30 beer bottles in the floor and garbage all over the floor. I asked Brian to talk to him about at least bringing the dishes up to the kitchen and keeping the garbage out of his floor. Sunday, I went to his room to put some clothes in there, and same shape again. Once again I asked Brian to talk to him and Brian exploded and told me to shut my f------ mouth. I am not ever allowed to say anything to him about his grown sons. I never say anything ugly, in fact, go out of my way to try to make them feel comfortable with me. David is the only one who lives with us. I don't think I asked too much and I am very upset and frustrated.
First, yes, you have every right to demand that this GROWN MAN (your step-son) clean up after himself.
Second, your husband is obviously not exactly a great guy. He might have the potential to be, but he certainly isn't now. Him talking to you like that is unacceptable.
If I were you I'd take time to sit down with your husband, calmly explain that you feel like you're being disrespected, and if he reacts so abrasively again---you might need to start rethinking your marriage.
Good luck! I've been in many rocky relationships and have always learned the hard way. You don't want to be looking at your life ten years down the road and thinking about tons of red flags that you SHOULD have paid more attention to. Don't let loving your husband blind you from what's acceptable and unacceptable.