Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
This is a rant..sorry..I'm bout to bust at the seams I'm sooo angry..
Me and my husband and our two children live with my mother in law. We didn't move in with them to be lazy or shiftless or anything like that (just thought I'd get that outta the way real quick like). At the same time my hubby got burnt in a flash fire(2nd degree 40% of his body) his grandmother who was also living with my mother in law, got really ill. Mother in law needed to be able to work but couldn't afford nursing care, So we let our place go, a rental in the country, and moved in with her so that I could take care of the hubby and granny and the two kids a lot easier.Granny passed in March. I helped out a lot with Granny, not that I'm looking for any rewards or buttons. I helped cause I loved the woman, and it was the right thing to do, and what I felt I was SUPPOSED to do.
I have dealt with this woman about all I can....I am now sitting here expecting CPS to come up at 3:30 to check to see that my kids are not living in "unsanitary conditions". This will be the 4th time I have dealt with CPS due to this wretched woman. I JUST got rid of CPS about 4 or 5 months ago for accusations of the same shit along with accusations of being a drug addict, along with hubby, and that we were unfit parents.
They came, they saw, stayed about 6 months, and let us go...
This woman makes me so darn mad (trying to keep it clean for the young 'uns here). I don't know what else all kind of mess she may have said to these people when she called them, and I know in my heart of hearts that she did, all four times, or what she might have said to them yesterday. I didn't know what was going on until, thankfully, hubby's dad dropped a dime on the issue while she was gone to work today. They guy I talked to on the phone told me that she spoke to him at length yesterday around 3pm, and I told my hubby and I quote "watch, she'll make sure she's home today before that CPS guy gets here." Guess what..I was right. She spoke to me over the phone about it, since I had called the govt number that was on our caller id from yesterday just to see if that was it and of course it was, so she found out from same father in law that dropped the dime to us.
She acted like she didn't know why they would be wanting to come back out (yeah right) and asked me 101 questions trying to see if I thought she did it, sort of. OF COURSE I know it was her. We don't have any friends per se, a couple of ppl we're real close to, and no enemies (other than her) since we mind our own buisness and leave others buisness alone, something she should do herself. She can't mind her own buisness, snoops in our room all the time trying to dig up nonexistant crap. We're on a seriously fixed income so moving out right now is not an option we have especially since hubby just had neck surgery, and physically I"m like a broke down, pus oozing, old wore out nag.
I'm playing nice, and not jumping on her and pounding her face in or turning her into a Reach Flip Top Head Lady (if u remember the Reach ToothBrush commercials). I swear I don't know whether to beat MY head off a brick wall or HERS!!
She tries to act like we do absolutely NOTHING around the house, dishes, cleaning ect. We do as much as we can, but are limited by our health and post surgical issues. But no matter how much you do, with her it is NEVEr enough. She is forever finding fault with something and generally treats all the other adults in the house as if they were her personal whipping children. You could clean house all day long, and when she comes in, all she can do is find the ONE thing you HAVEN"T gotten to or done.
She is so childish and petty it is UNREAL. But I refuse to let on like I'm preturbed in ANY way. I made out like I thought they were coming out to do a check up on us from the last time we dealt with CPS. To heck with letting her think I know what the jig is. She's mad cause she went to her brother, who also lives with us, and started cussing and raising holy hell trying to say me and hubby do nothing around the house, the problem hubby had was it was within earshot of our two kids 9 and 13. He went in there and let her have it, let her know that she was full of it, and that truth be told, neither HER nor her HUBBY wash any dishes, so he didn't want to hear it and to stop it in front of the kids. Her childish revenge is to call CPS.. I sooo want to cuss her out and let her know I know and tell her once again (yes I have blew on her and told her off a couple of times already before) what I think of her...but sad fact is all that would do is give her exactly what she wants..and I don't want to give her anything...Excuse me for saying..but...I WOULDN'T PISS IN HER ASS IF HER GUTS WERE ON FIRE!!!!
Thank you for allowing me this little space to fume and rant and blow of steam..all advice is welcome...how do you guys deal with people like this without losing your sanity to boot???
Me and my husband and our two children live with my mother in law. We didn't move in with them to be lazy or shiftless or anything like that (just thought I'd get that outta the way real quick like). At the same time my hubby got burnt in a flash fire(2nd degree 40% of his body) his grandmother who was also living with my mother in law, got really ill. Mother in law needed to be able to work but couldn't afford nursing care, So we let our place go, a rental in the country, and moved in with her so that I could take care of the hubby and granny and the two kids a lot easier.Granny passed in March. I helped out a lot with Granny, not that I'm looking for any rewards or buttons. I helped cause I loved the woman, and it was the right thing to do, and what I felt I was SUPPOSED to do.
I have dealt with this woman about all I can....I am now sitting here expecting CPS to come up at 3:30 to check to see that my kids are not living in "unsanitary conditions". This will be the 4th time I have dealt with CPS due to this wretched woman. I JUST got rid of CPS about 4 or 5 months ago for accusations of the same shit along with accusations of being a drug addict, along with hubby, and that we were unfit parents.
They came, they saw, stayed about 6 months, and let us go...
This woman makes me so darn mad (trying to keep it clean for the young 'uns here). I don't know what else all kind of mess she may have said to these people when she called them, and I know in my heart of hearts that she did, all four times, or what she might have said to them yesterday. I didn't know what was going on until, thankfully, hubby's dad dropped a dime on the issue while she was gone to work today. They guy I talked to on the phone told me that she spoke to him at length yesterday around 3pm, and I told my hubby and I quote "watch, she'll make sure she's home today before that CPS guy gets here." Guess what..I was right. She spoke to me over the phone about it, since I had called the govt number that was on our caller id from yesterday just to see if that was it and of course it was, so she found out from same father in law that dropped the dime to us.
She acted like she didn't know why they would be wanting to come back out (yeah right) and asked me 101 questions trying to see if I thought she did it, sort of. OF COURSE I know it was her. We don't have any friends per se, a couple of ppl we're real close to, and no enemies (other than her) since we mind our own buisness and leave others buisness alone, something she should do herself. She can't mind her own buisness, snoops in our room all the time trying to dig up nonexistant crap. We're on a seriously fixed income so moving out right now is not an option we have especially since hubby just had neck surgery, and physically I"m like a broke down, pus oozing, old wore out nag.
I'm playing nice, and not jumping on her and pounding her face in or turning her into a Reach Flip Top Head Lady (if u remember the Reach ToothBrush commercials). I swear I don't know whether to beat MY head off a brick wall or HERS!!
She tries to act like we do absolutely NOTHING around the house, dishes, cleaning ect. We do as much as we can, but are limited by our health and post surgical issues. But no matter how much you do, with her it is NEVEr enough. She is forever finding fault with something and generally treats all the other adults in the house as if they were her personal whipping children. You could clean house all day long, and when she comes in, all she can do is find the ONE thing you HAVEN"T gotten to or done.
She is so childish and petty it is UNREAL. But I refuse to let on like I'm preturbed in ANY way. I made out like I thought they were coming out to do a check up on us from the last time we dealt with CPS. To heck with letting her think I know what the jig is. She's mad cause she went to her brother, who also lives with us, and started cussing and raising holy hell trying to say me and hubby do nothing around the house, the problem hubby had was it was within earshot of our two kids 9 and 13. He went in there and let her have it, let her know that she was full of it, and that truth be told, neither HER nor her HUBBY wash any dishes, so he didn't want to hear it and to stop it in front of the kids. Her childish revenge is to call CPS.. I sooo want to cuss her out and let her know I know and tell her once again (yes I have blew on her and told her off a couple of times already before) what I think of her...but sad fact is all that would do is give her exactly what she wants..and I don't want to give her anything...Excuse me for saying..but...I WOULDN'T PISS IN HER ASS IF HER GUTS WERE ON FIRE!!!!
Thank you for allowing me this little space to fume and rant and blow of steam..all advice is welcome...how do you guys deal with people like this without losing your sanity to boot???
I wouldn't care if she never did a dish at all..It's the constant bitching about small, insignifigant stuff, nit picking people to death. A big issue is the no privacy and her snooping in our stuff, she does it to her brother too all the time. She called CPS since "bitching fest" got her nothing but shut down by my hubby. It has become her only recourse when hounding, being snappish and ill and hateful and downright ugly, gets her no where.
Heck when Granny died, hubby couldn't hardly take it. So he bought a cheap pint of vodka. He drank about half of it, went to our neighbor who we are close friends with, who incidentally like all of our few friends, does not like her or the way she treats us. He happened to have a larger bottle of the same vodka and refilled the hubbys bottle. So hubby got a little more than tipsy so mother in law had him arrested the nite of Granny's funeral. Hubby was extremely close to his granny, and he has never used alcohol at any time as a crutch, but this one time he did.
The whole time granny was slipping away, the mother in law was supposed to be giving her vicodin for pain, but was only giving her like a half a pill to one pill in a WHOLE DAY when grannys doc said 1-2 every 4-6 hours. She was getting 120 a month from the dr. and then the hospice people. This went on for like 6-7 months. And the whole time mother in law was having wild mood swings. Just like one would typically have while under the influence of narcotic meds. Me hubby and mother in laws brother talked about the possibility of her taking grannys meds, but that nite hubby blanked on her about it. She tried to turn it around and say that he was talking about me, but I told her to her face that was flat out BS.
And that he was talking about her. Then she tried to tell her brother that I was the one taking the meds, my doc already had me on my OWN meds, and I would NEVEr have taken ANYTHING from Granny.