You have my support and prayers. Hang in there!

Sending you a great big hug.

I truly hope that the counseling will help make things much better for everyone involved so my prayers go out to you. I also hope that maybe in the future your husband will quit that job and pursue something else as I feel things would just be a whole lot more peaceful in your household.

It doesn't mean he can't have any contact with his family but it sure would put a lot less drama in your lives. His family sounds like they live for drama, gossip and are never satisfied unless they have someone to pick on or gossip about so I say let them have their negative world and you and your family can focus on what really matters in this life and that is being happy content and enjoying all that life has to offer.

Anyway I truly hope your hubby plucks up the courage to take a chance in life and put you and the kids first and to say heck with the rest of the family. Wishing you all the very best.

Thanks ladies. I survived. The counselor saw through her stuff, and didn't let her get by with much without calling her on it. Appreciate the prayers and support!

mae if that is what he wrote I would call the police. Your BIL made a threat of violence against you and your children. That is not something to be taken lightly.

Did you show that email to the counselor? If so what did he say?

Yes, the email was shown to the counselor. The counselor requested to see it, so we used my husband's phone to look it up for him. The counselor said it was a threat, so I should no way be expected to have any contact with him because of the threat. Since he and his family lives with my MIL, it was my counselor's opinion that I do not go to that house for any reason (didn't have to tell me twice, I avoid it anyway because MIL has told me I'm not welcome there). So, my husband announced that we aren't going to Thanksgiving (the compromise back in early Sept. was we would do Thanksgiving at her house but Christmas was just our immediate family) because I'm not comfortable over there and he's not leaving me by myself on Thanksgiving. The counselor said something about mandated reporting as well. In this case, he wasn't going to turn it in because it has been 2 weeks since the email and nothing has happened. However, he asked me or my husband to send him a copy for the file he has. I don't think for a minute that my sister in law's husband means to hurt me. He is a very weak man (both physically and mentally...he is easily brainwashed by whomever he's around). The counselor as well as me and my husband felt that my MIL was running her mouth to him as well as other people (which she admitted to after some pressure from the counselor) and put him up to it (she didn't admit to that part).

Please just be careful. Weak people do things to please others. If this man is so influenced by your MIL and is dependent on her you never know what he will do. It could be something stupid that turns tragic.

Have you considered talking to your husband about moving far away from these people? I know he is in a family business but maybe it is time to leave that and do something else. Sounds like he is the brains and brawn in the business so maybe he could open his own...just somewhere else.

I know this is a drastic step to take but life is too short to be this miserable.

We have discussed it. The business, unfortunately, is all he knows. He started in the business around 10 years old and has never worked anywhere else. It is his identity and soul. He refuses to leave.

We have prayed for u hope every thing iz good

Thanks pupwolf and everyone else! It's appreciated.

Thanks pupwolf and everyone else! It's appreciated.

How r u iz every thing ok?

Thanks pupwolf. We're surviving. My sister in law (not the one that had the husband that threatened me, but hubby's other sister) has been putting alot of stress on me and hubby. She informed us via text message that either we would go over to mom's house this weekend or she was coming to get our kids. My husband informs her we weren't invited to the get together. She proceeds to make excuses about how the phone network must have screwed up and that we should have gotten mom's text message inviting us. My husband asked her to forward the text from mom. She never did, so hubby left it alone. Sister in law texted hubby again this weekend asking if we were going or if she was coming to get our kids. Hubby responded that we weren't going and why don't we just set up a play date for her girls and our daughter & son. Hubby and I made sure we weren't home in case she came to try to take our kids Sunday afternoon/evening. She never texted my husband back until after the gathering. In the text, she proceeded to tell us how we weren't angels either and we were hurting mom. That we were stupid and ridicolous. Hubby didn't answer the text. Next thing is hubby's brother emails everyone saying he's coming home for Christmas (hasn't done that in over 3 years). He lives 4 hours away and rarely comes home. When he does, his wife refuses to come because of how the family treats her (they are recently married...like 2 years; she's come to visit once and that was the summer before they were married). His wife is coming with him this time. He wants everyone to get together on the Saturday before Christmas for the day. This is a no go for us. First, my daughter has autism and can only handle such chaos (over 20 people with 10 kids and 1/2 under 5 running around) for a max of 1 1/2 to 2 hours. This timeframe always causes problems...my MIL throws a fit that we don't stay longer and tries to manipulate it so we have to stay longer (ex. tell the kids we're leaving in 10 minutes and she all of a sudden has to do pictures but someone's kid is sleeping so we have to wait like another hour for them to wake up). I've gotten to the point I walk out anyway with the kids which leads to even more fit throwing on MIL's part. Secondly, my husband and I had plans to go to an event 5 hours away. We have a babysitter coming to our house to stay with our kids (easier on our daughter and this babysitter has been trained to take care of the issues that arise with autism). So, it's a mess. Wish hubby would agree to move but his soul is in the family business (funny tidbit...none of the other children work in the business because they can't stand mom that much; only family that works there is hubby and MIL).