Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
I had a meltdown last night and I cried for hours. I couldn't even get to sleep because of it.
My husband and I have our ups and downs. But lately he's been so selfish. That's what I think anyway... He doesn't take me or the kids into consideration at all. I feel like I am the only one doing EVERYTHING and I mean everything in our relationship, financially, and with the kids. He does work but when he gets paid it goes on his habit. He just sits on his chair and watches TV. Doesn't help with the kids or cleaning. Gets mad at the kids for trying to play or wanting his attention. Here I am trying to do everything and be there for all three of them to try to give them their individually time that they need and want. But I can't do it all.
I find myself asking what is the point in even being in this marriage. What is the point in trying to make it work. I have voiced my concerns several times and he helps out and does good for 2 weeks and goes right back to being himself.
We have a car that I pay for and I never get to use it. I have errands to run and appointments I need to get to and it's a big inconvenience for him to come get me or bring the car to me. Not to mention it's breaking down and I am the one that has to fix it.
I'm going out of my mind here.... Sometimes I find myself asking myself if I should file for a divorce because I'm tired of trying and I hate that because I am not a quitter.... I need help or something.
My husband and I have our ups and downs. But lately he's been so selfish. That's what I think anyway... He doesn't take me or the kids into consideration at all. I feel like I am the only one doing EVERYTHING and I mean everything in our relationship, financially, and with the kids. He does work but when he gets paid it goes on his habit. He just sits on his chair and watches TV. Doesn't help with the kids or cleaning. Gets mad at the kids for trying to play or wanting his attention. Here I am trying to do everything and be there for all three of them to try to give them their individually time that they need and want. But I can't do it all.
I find myself asking what is the point in even being in this marriage. What is the point in trying to make it work. I have voiced my concerns several times and he helps out and does good for 2 weeks and goes right back to being himself.
We have a car that I pay for and I never get to use it. I have errands to run and appointments I need to get to and it's a big inconvenience for him to come get me or bring the car to me. Not to mention it's breaking down and I am the one that has to fix it.
I'm going out of my mind here.... Sometimes I find myself asking myself if I should file for a divorce because I'm tired of trying and I hate that because I am not a quitter.... I need help or something.
I'd consider going to a 12 step support group. Addiction is tricky and he'll most likely backslide...
Is he seeing a psychiatrist? If he smoked that much pot, he was probably self medicating a condition...
Hugs.
I know that he could slide right back into that slump but the option is his to take and he knows the consequences of starting back in again.
I have an AA in Chemical Dependency and I do know what it is he is trying not to deal with and where this all started from. So I am fully aware of the what and why.