Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
Any ideas on boundaries fo Parents/Inlaws that must have control at all times? Even to the detriment to the health of yourself or children? Hubby and I have an autistic daughter and I am diabetic. This causes extreme tension when I put my footdown in regards to our daughter. I rarely say much about the diabetes as I can adjust due to being on a pump. Hubby, MIL, and I are in counseling over it (hubby agrees with me, while he rarely expresses it, he has started to do so in counseling which has only made things worse with his mom). I feel counseling is a waste unless people are willing to change. Neither side is willing to change. She thinks we're absurd and we think we need to protect our daughter. I'm looking for some peace. Any ideas?
Ps. MIL and hubby own a business together (family business since 1979). I work part-time in it. There are no other family members interested working or that work there. Hubby and his mother can barely communicate for the sake of business matters at this point.
Ps. MIL and hubby own a business together (family business since 1979). I work part-time in it. There are no other family members interested working or that work there. Hubby and his mother can barely communicate for the sake of business matters at this point.
It is not your responsibility to work there, nor is it your responsibility to never get another job.
Get anohter job.
Protect your daughter. When enough is enough, show someone the door or walk out it yourselves.
As for counseling, stop looking at it likes its a 'cure-all'. Sometimes, going to therapy just to get a grip on life and day to day issues is good enough. Sounds like you guys have a very stressful environment, and then add the medical/child issues on top of it - I would think therapy will provide you all with an out to vent, release and maybe find ways to just deal with it all.
If your that miserable, and so is your hubby with current employment, start looking into another job. You cannot sacrifice your life for his parents dream. Unless you want to continue in their legacy, it's time to move on. Nothing to feel guilty about - you can reduce your involvement professionally.
Good luck with everything and you MIL. Overbearing parents just need to be reminded you are an adult, you are responsible, you have control. Don't be afraid to use it and take your life back. :)
Also what does the therapist say?