Family Issues Support Group

Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.

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orphananny 03/01/2016

I have been trying to fix my boys for 11 years, and to my dismay there is almost no support for families of sex offenders. As the mother I did what the experts told me to. I turned one of my sons in to the school counselor when he was just 13 years old. They arrested him and he never came home again. He did sex offender treatment, counseling, meds, and had as much family support as a person can ask for. But yesterday this kid who has had so much help was on the news for being arrested on his fourth charge. What am I supposed to do with that? Why are there no resources for mothers of these boys? All I want to do is find a way to protect society from my sons by healing them so they do not hurt anyone. This site is the closest I have come to finding a forum where I could address this topic that no one ever wants to talk about. People do not have compassion for sex offenders. They don't see them like their mother does. It has been impossible to find people who can talk about it in a rational manor.

patti22 03/01/2016

I can't even begin to imagine how heartbreaking.

Why no resources? My personal belief is it's because we just don't value children. They're treated as irrevocably damaged. Thing is, we don't really know, because we (as a society) have never really tried to treat these kids.

DeliAnnem 03/01/2016

So sad. At 13, they are children themselves and I suspect they are survivors of abuse as well.

Maybe you should MAKE a foundation.

Healing hugs.

SunCloudJD 03/01/2016

There is a really good and active group on here that may be a good support for you... Welcome... Big hug

http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/families-of-sex-offenders

DeliAnnem 03/02/2016

You could attend a support group of families of sex addicts...?

SunCloudJD 03/02/2016

I don't know if anything on this board may be of a good support... The other link I gave you will introduce you to people who are quite knowledgeable though... big hug and bless you and your children

http://www.sexoffenderresource.com/national/

orphananny 03/03/2016

Wow awesome link, thank you so much for the info Suncloud. I will be doing some research from there soon. This is exactly what I was hoping to find.

pd2012 03/03/2016

I hope you find the support that you need. It's a terrible situation that you find yourself in. The more support you have, the stronger you will become. As parents, we always take it upon ourselves to take on the responsibility of everything that your children become; for good or bad. There are times when we have to take a step back and stop blaming ourselves for what our children do wrong just as we can't take all the credit for everything they do right.

SunCloudJD 03/03/2016

BTW You 'sound' like a wonderful mom... Big hug....xo

Desigol1979 03/06/2016

In the UK, anything involving children brings out the vigilante in the public. But, yes, it seems that your sons were abused themselves. I was abused as a young boy and ended up drawn to younger girls when at School.

alice92 03/12/2016

You do have resources. Any therapist will accept you for therapy. It's not like they exclude mothers who have rapist/pedo children.

If they were sexually abusing children as young as age 13 they were probably abused as children.

They do not throw 13 year olds in prison for it, they give them treatment, which you said happened. Considering that they are still attacking the innocent... maybe it is just that they enjoy what they are doing and do not want to change.

alice92 03/12/2016

Honestly there is nothing you can do to force them to stop hurting people unless they are still minors. Idk anything about you as a parent so I'm not assuming one way or the other. But, some people who end up as sex offenders have ended up that way due to their own experiences, other's just enjoy the feeling of power and control.

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