my parents have always told me that trust is the most important thing and that we should always be open to talking about everythign together. i found out the other day through doing reserach on my dads heart condition for a school project that its hereditary and i have a 50/50 chance of also having it. they never told me anything and they hate talking about it- thats why i used google. for another example- 2 years ago my dad started having these operations to remove something from his bladder. as time went on and there was more hospital visits, i figured out what was going on (my parents are trrible at keeping secrets). my dad had cancer- i could never prove my hypothesis but i always knew in my mind that something was happening. then a few days ago, nearly 2 1/2 years after the first op my dad told me in the car about the cancer. I wish i had told him how i feel then but i couldnt. i was stopping myself crying,even though i spent ages dealing with it before i knew for certain. but now i dont feel sad about it - im only angry at my parents for not telling me, then lying when i asked and telling me off for not being trustworthy when they knew all along and never told me