Family Issues Support Group

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hannah_mclane
hannah_mclane

Recently I have been going through a lot of family issues that have really been bothering me. It all started a year ago when my mom and step dad split up due to something that could have been resolved. Shortly after they split up, my mom got in a new relationship. This bothered me because I felt she was just giving up on their relationship after 15 years of marriage. They signed divorce papers in September (10 months after splitting up). My step dad said that once the papers were signed he wouldnt be able to go back to my mom. Now after having the papers signed for a few months now, they are talking about getting back together. It is all just so confusing. I obviously want what is best for them and their happiness, I just feel that them getting back together wouldnt be the brightest idea. 

patti22
patti22
I don't know if you've started dating yet Hannah, but when you do you'll learn that life...is complicated.

How to put it: You don't know, what you don't know. Most parents try to keep the details of their relationships away from their kids. You really don't need to know the details of their romantic relationship, their issues with chores, money or anything else. As such, you really don't know if the reason they split is trivial or not.

My best advice is to just be the best friend to your mother that you know how to be, and hope that if you go through a breakup yourself...that she will be there for you too...no questions asked.

My kids are 16 and 18...so yes I can only imagine how hard it IS for you. Perhaps lean on your own friends during this time?

Best of luck, Patti
newstart4me2
newstart4me2
Hannah, I agree w/Patti22. You dont need to worry about your parents, enjoy your life. be supportive and not judgmental for both.
growthhurts
growthhurts
I know it can be hard to understand why people do what they do and that it's really hard when parents break up. I've seen the effects of divorce on families and it's not great, but we have to make the best of unfortunate situations. I am divorced and my daughter is now a teen. Her dad and I have worked to keep her best interest in mind as she was growing up and I think we've done pretty ok, as she is a compassionate and well-adjusted kid. It is so sweet of you to be concerned with your mom and step dad's relationship but try to trust that they are adults and can make their own decisions, as you will want to.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Relationships can be confusing for sure..... They are between the 2 of them to sort out though sweetie

Big hug.... and deep breaths..... xo
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