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Mother in law causing hell

Mommaoftwo2
Mommaoftwo2

hello everyone I’m new and could use some help and some advice...



my soonto be mother in law and me have had an ongoing battle back and forth for 5 years she’s been nasty to me ever since I found out I was pregnant constant fight when I was pregnant it got to the point when I had my daughter the nurse gave me a secret word to use if she got to be to much and I wanted her out let’s jump ahead to recently it’s not any better I suffer from depression anxiety ptsd and much more her other son was recently diagnosed with depression and she tends to him a lot yes I get it that’s her son but she just tells me I’m paranoid or I need to grow up and get over myself I have tried multiple times to reconcile and I get blown off it effecting me so much cause I’m trying to make amends for my kids and my fiancé but the battle is now causing problem between me and my fiancé I just can’t take it anymore it breaks me inside that I get rejected I get called a child by my fiancé because I try so hard and nothin works I’m at my wits end and not sure how much more I can take I’m trying so hard I see therapist and support groups I just don’t know what to do I’m broken I’m sick of hiding and crying when I can be enjoying my day or getting things done someone please tell me it won’t always be like this and how I can try to fix everything I apologized for the things I have done I just don’t understand why I get bashed when I’m the one trying

patti22
patti22
Calling you a baby isn't okay...no matter what.

I see the biggest problem as being with your fiance.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I agree with Patti...… You and your children are now your fiancé's family.... His mother is his birth family however his responsibly is to you and your children

I think he needs to man up and let his mother know that it isn't okay to be disrespectful to you and that it has to stop

I think he needs to grow up from what I'm reading here

I would put some boundaries in place for your wellbeing ….. and I wouldn't want my children around someone who's disrespectful to me..... They learn by what they see


Big hug.....xo
trulycommitted
trulycommitted
All of these feelings and reactions are completely normal. Many couples do not anticipate the challenges that can occur in dealing with in-laws. Talking to others or seeking professional help can be supportive; as you are already doing this. Just remember, you can’t always control what happens to you, but you do have control over how you respond. I would suggest having a heart-to-heart with your significant other, find common ground and set boundaries. This will work out. Sending hugs your way.
zeezee
zeezee
Are you all living under the same roof? How often do you need to be in contact with her? I think it would be good to have a talk with your fiance about how his mother is affecting you. Yes, she is his mother, but you are his partner and the mother of his child. He shouldn't push you aside like you're less important than her. She is never going to change, but I think the less contact you have with her, the better.
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