Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
Thanks to dementia, mom has developed an explosive temper, and I'm emotionally worn out from dealing with it. Earlier this morning, she dropped in to visit, and I politely tried to correct a misunderstanding she had regarding another matter. Suddenly, she raised her voice and made verbal threats to me simply because we had a difference of opinion.
Sometimes she's loving and kind, but I've noticed that most of her anger is directed at me. She treats me like crap, and calls later to appologize, and I'm fed up with it. This time I told her to stay away for a while...I need to avoid her for a few days.
My children and I have been supportive and understanding, and I visit with mom several times a week. Other relatives rarely get involved, although my 'long lost,' poor excuse of a brother dropped in to see mom a week ago, and she's always praising him. I hate him because of the way he's treated her in the past. He has not changed his selfish ways, and mom shouldn't hold her breath until his next visit.
Btw....my sisters are just as selfish also.
Sometimes she's loving and kind, but I've noticed that most of her anger is directed at me. She treats me like crap, and calls later to appologize, and I'm fed up with it. This time I told her to stay away for a while...I need to avoid her for a few days.
My children and I have been supportive and understanding, and I visit with mom several times a week. Other relatives rarely get involved, although my 'long lost,' poor excuse of a brother dropped in to see mom a week ago, and she's always praising him. I hate him because of the way he's treated her in the past. He has not changed his selfish ways, and mom shouldn't hold her breath until his next visit.
Btw....my sisters are just as selfish also.
I'm sorry that you seen to be saddled with caring for your mother! I visited with my father a lot before he passed away several years ago. My only sibiling, my brother was not in the picture too. My father didn't have dementia, but nonetheless it was hard on the other family members as he had cancer and was often very moody towards the end of his life.
Here's some {{{hugs}} and may you continue having the strength to contnue being there for your mother.
May the blessings be...! :-)
You're right - you do need a break and a breather away from her harshness, but at the same time, continue to love her and express to her kindly that you want to be there for her. Also, as hard as it is, you may need to be a little more patient with her since she is really struggling right now - this doesn't mean take verbal attacks from her, but it does mean that you can respond calmly when she does bring forth her anger.
Good luck with everything, and I will keep your family in my prayers.... Family issues are so hard. Keep trucking, and don't forget that despite all of this, I'm sure she still really loves you!
Love,
Sabrina