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I've given some background on my little sister before but here's a refresher on this particular thing.
Two years ago she was with this guy, he was up for jail time. They had been together a few months and his dad (who is a real estate agent) bought them a trailer. The park is owner operated, and since his son was going to jail he put it in Tillys (my sister) name. The deal being that they made monthly payments.
Dude goes to jail, Tilly ends it with him while he's locked up, has a new guy, and stops paying the monthly fee.
So her name is on the trailer, but the dad bought the thing ($14 500) on his credit card so he has proof he purchased it.
I recentley have been hearing rumors that in the new year the ex's dad is going to be slapping my sister with a law suit.
I don't know if I should say anything or not. I don't want to massivley stress her out right before Christmas, but I don't want her to be unprepared. And what if it's just rumors and that's it? I think it was wrong of her to stop paying, but I don't want to see her and her son homeless. And if I don't say anything and it happens and she found out I knew something will she be hurt and angry at me?
I wish I'd never heard, hell I wish she had paid her bill, or never met that guy and his parents who tried to bribe her into staying with their son because they knew he would have a hard time with his type of charge.
Two years ago she was with this guy, he was up for jail time. They had been together a few months and his dad (who is a real estate agent) bought them a trailer. The park is owner operated, and since his son was going to jail he put it in Tillys (my sister) name. The deal being that they made monthly payments.
Dude goes to jail, Tilly ends it with him while he's locked up, has a new guy, and stops paying the monthly fee.
So her name is on the trailer, but the dad bought the thing ($14 500) on his credit card so he has proof he purchased it.
I recentley have been hearing rumors that in the new year the ex's dad is going to be slapping my sister with a law suit.
I don't know if I should say anything or not. I don't want to massivley stress her out right before Christmas, but I don't want her to be unprepared. And what if it's just rumors and that's it? I think it was wrong of her to stop paying, but I don't want to see her and her son homeless. And if I don't say anything and it happens and she found out I knew something will she be hurt and angry at me?
I wish I'd never heard, hell I wish she had paid her bill, or never met that guy and his parents who tried to bribe her into staying with their son because they knew he would have a hard time with his type of charge.
Everyone pays rent or a house note if they're buying. She's digging her own hole.
there are pros and cons to this. if you tell her before christmas, maybe she n the new bf can try to make up back payments...and hopefully help in the hindrance of being sued....but then again, it might be "too late" and it'll only stress her out...
...i'm just wondering why she even stopped payments in the first place. if i had broken it off with the son of the guy who bought the place i'm living in, i'd've tried to find another place to live. if she's stuck in some sort of lease agreement n had to stay...i would most definitely have kept up with payments....
....you're in a tough spot. maybe bring up small talk with your sister on the place. ask her how much she pays for "rent" a month (cuz you're looking around for a friend who's interested in buying a trailer)...if she outright says she isn't paying...push a little more by asking "why"...maybe it'll open up a little opportunity to see if now is better than later in spilling what you've heard.
Technically, if she went bankrupt, which I do not recommend, he would have to eat the debt and she keeps the trailer and car and clothes. Just rambling.....
Let me explain some more. And bear in mind while I totally bash her, I LOVE my sister...hands down. I don't agree with most of what she does, but I love her and we are fairly close and talk almost every day.
She is the type of person who does midnight moves on landlords because she can't afford the rent. She usually can't afford the rent because she spends her money horribly and stupidly. However, for the trailer, she didn't stop paying because she couldn't afford it. She stopped paying because she saw a way to screw someone she didn't like anymore and get something for free (or so she thought). My sister has a twisted sense of self entitlement.
The new guy would of helped her, but she stopped paying shortly after meeting him. So there was no payments for him to help with.
Im not sure if they signed a contract. And I think that worst they will do is make her do payments to catch up then pay it off.
I think I'm going to tell her between Christmas day and New Years. He isn't meant to take action until after the new year, at least he is granting her that.