I don't know your situation, but is there a women's shelter or family you can go to?

We are staying with family and there is a womens shelter that im keeping in close contact with and they r gonna provide me therapy at no charge but right now I'm just a mess and wanna go home

It sounds like you ARE home right now... Family who supports you. "HOME" is not where you are abused so badly you must take your kids and leave. Think of it that way...

Also, think of your kids. What you did took courage, so no wonder you feel weak from it. Take it one day at a time. Pray for strength and realize that you did the right thing.

You now get to redefine your concept of home and set one up where you and your children are safe. Is your family saying you can take as much time as you need? How old are your kids?

My family enjoys us being there and says we can take as long as we need. My children that live with me r 2 girls ages 8 & 12. I have am 18 yr old as well but he is not in the home. If a man treated my kids the way he treated me I'd be furious and i knew sticking arpund would have increased that possibility

I agree with Deli, A Home is not a place where any type of abuse takes place. You were strong enough to make that final decision to better yourself and take your self and your children out of harms way. It's not an easy road to travel. I would continue to work with the shelter and their therapy to get yourself emotionally stronger. Any abuse is only conducted by the perpetrator to ensure their victims stay under their control. It's all about their control over their victims; it feeds whatever inadequacy they feel in life.

I would say you took a "giant leap" of faith in yourself. Good for you! You may be feeling that life would just be easier if you went back to him and your home; it won't though; it'll just get worse and maybe next time you won't have a chance or opportunity to leave.

We're always here to listen and give you advice and support; Anytime! Stay strong and believe in yourself! Keep moving forward and the day will come when you realize just what a strong woman you are and you made the right decision to better yourself!

Keep moving forward and don't look back!

All my best to you and your children! Amazing woman you are!

All of your kind words and encouragement mean so much to me! I appreciate each and every one of u!

Sometimes we all need our decisions validated by other folks. You've just shown amazing courage. It takes a lot of guts to do what you did. Don't second guess yourself!

Don't be hard on yourself- change, sometimes even the GOOD one you just made, can feel wrong because it's different. You may feel like you are waiting for the other shoe to drop, so to speak.

After I left a bad situation, it took me YEARS to finally realize that the world isn't out to get me- just the @$$hole I was with..

Stay focused on those lovely girls of yours and know that you are teaching them that they come from strong stock. They will learn that NO MAN SHOULD EVER MISTREAT A WOMAN! You are their hero!!! : ))) I wish my mom had given me that gift 30 years ago... No wonder I got myself involved with cr@p men. You made the right choice and a difference in their lives.

Remember, you are in the very worst part of this right now. Every day it will get easier and better. You just have to be strong and get through this rough phase. Time will make it better. You are so lucky to have family who love you and are happy to care for you in this situation. Take advantage of thier love and support and use them to help you get through this. Don't go back to him, only to have to leave again and start this painful process all over again. He won't change. I'm in a very emotionally and verbally abusive relationship right now. He has only gotten worse every year in the 6 years I've been with him. I am trying to find the strength to leave, but I have no one but him...no family either. I wish you the best and I hope you start feeling better very soon.

You took the first step by leaving....and while it might be hard right now, it will get easier. You've got kids to think (and worry) about............and it sounds like you have family support:):)

Be thankful and move forward. Baby Steps:):)

Hello Momx3a,
You did a very brave thing leaving with just the things you could fit in the car and your children. And what you are feeling about wanting to go back home is normal. With time and the assistance of the counseling, you're going to be ok. Remember you are strong and resilient. You had to be to remain in an abusive relationship for however long you were in it and you showed how strong and resilient you are by getting you and and your children out safely. Keep the faith in yourself, your strengths and your children's well-being.
Best to you.