Family Issues Support Group

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piper7 02/09/2018

When my husband gets mad he yells and screams at me. He said just yesterday "go F yourself", "stay the F away from me" and threw the car keys at me and said "go to hell". When he gets mad he raises his voice and swears. This is not how I act and I don't like it when he acts this way. I have told him before. I am just tired of it. Yesterday he was so angry when he was yelling at me I was scared. He has never hurt me but he was so enraged I just didn't know. We have been married for 25 years. He has always gotten mad and dealt with it this way but it just makes things worse. I am tired of it. What are the chances that we can make things better? We have not spoken since yesterday. He will apologize and he will be nice and things will be good until the next time he goes on the attack. I need advice.

patti22 02/09/2018

After 25 years? Zero.

piper7 02/09/2018

I don't know whether to laugh or cry at your response. I realize after 25 years its almost impossible to change a person but we have never been to counseling, just wondered if anyone thought it might help? I think I need to try something. I am also curious if other people have relationships where the spouse swears and yells at them in arguments? I don't like it but am I being too sensitive?

SunCloudJD 02/09/2018

It's abusive and he doesn't have control of his temper.....

He's acting like a teenager having a hissy fit

He could go to anger management and it might help him..... I would tell I'm I've had enough and mean it....

Big hug.....xo

patti22 02/09/2018

I wouldn't like it.

I think counseling would be a great idea, either by yourself or as a couple.

I'm divorced now (long story, but we had kids, things got stressful, he wanted to drink, I didn't like it, he left), but yes, back in our marriage we would yell during arguments. Sometimes swear.

But swearing wasn't the issue in my marriage. drinking was.

On the other side of 50 now...all I can say is that I'm done with taking being mistreated.

SunCloudJD 02/09/2018

I swear to but not at people.... and throwing keys I think is abusive .... Then comes the honeymoon stage again

It's abuse

I agree that therapy can help as well anger management.... You may have to decide are you willing to keep on living like this??

patti22 02/09/2018

"I was scared."

You can argue about the swearing or the keys, but you were scared.

THAT changes everything.

SunCloudJD 02/09/2018

I agree!!....xo

piper7 02/09/2018

I know. I did feel scared yesterday. If I tell him that I was scared he will mock me and say "have I ever hurt you before?" He will think i am being dramatic. I know him. i will tell him anyway. I guess counseling is the first answer. You just never know about other peoples relationships. I wondered if anyone else has dealt with this. I would be really sad to be divorced. I dont know if we could even afford it.! I am just tired of him treating me this way. Teenager is exactly right! Very immature to not be able to deal with your feelings in a productive manner.

Cora_Belle 02/09/2018

I think the f bomb isn't so much an issue as is the yelling, screaming and anger.

patti22 02/15/2018

How are you doing? Any updates?

towersofgold 02/15/2018

i'm not married but i have parents who have been engaged in an unhealthy marriage. my dad does this to my mum and me and all of us. my advice is to deal with it before it can get any worse

SunCloudJD 02/15/2018

You're being dramatic???????.....He's the one having a hissy fit and throwing keys!!

devastated39 02/22/2018

I am so sorry honey! I am sure you do not derseve that type of behavior! It is hard to remember what your own self worth is! wish you the very best♥

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