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Im at my end

BrokenBridges
BrokenBridges

My spouse: 
1) Believes theyve been given a God given intellect over everyone else. 
2. Gives long lectures to people who arent as smart as themselves and pawns it off as mentoring. 
3. A master manipulator and table turner. 
4. Belives they are Gods gift to opposite sex and why wouldnt anyone want to be with them. 
5. Lures their victims, gets close, learns their emotional weaknesses and uses it to destroy them if they dont get the attention and recognition they think they deserve. (Doesnt matter if its spouse, children, etc.) 
6. Refuses to admit defeat and blames those close to themselves for that defeat. 

I have asked to go back to work, spouse makes me feel guilty for wanting to do so. I believe he is controling me or scared he might lose me and he just might, ive about had it. 

Im so desperate in fact that ive looked at ways to live homeless just to get away. 
Im contemplating taking the $300 i have, buying a one way bus ticket and leaving. He has everyone around him enamoured or snowed over. In fact, im almost certain people would think it was my fault and blame me. Im alone and not sure what to do.

Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
You wrote that you 'asked ' to go back to work??.... What about telling him you're going back to work?

I would be careful and be safe with this type of personality....

I also put up a link to the Healthy Relationships board for you on the other post that you commented on.... Big hug....xo
BrokenBridges
BrokenBridges
Thank you!
beachshore
beachshore
Big hugs. Do you get out of the house at all? That could give you time to apply for a job. Ask your husband what he would think would be a good job for you. Maybe try to give him a little control with your mission. Maybe volunteering somewhere to start easy on him. Don't give him attention when he plays his games on you. Silently listen.
BrokenBridges
BrokenBridges
I dont think he realizes he is the way he is. Its a very difficult and complicated space to be in. I question myself constantly, unable to make the simplest decisions. Narcessists know how to keep you on the edge.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
He knows exactly what he's doing!!!!.... Be safe and get out sweetie.... I know it's hard however you can and will heal from this...... Gentle hug and a blessing.....xo

Gaslighting.....

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201704/7-stages-gaslighting-in-relationship
wearefamily2016
wearefamily2016
Sometimes people take advantage of the people they love and hurt them without even realizing. Maybe if you ask to seek a marriage counselor, he will realize that he can't be all that perfect. And with the way you describe him, your marriage counselor with agree as well. Maybe if he hears it from a professional, then he will have a change of heart. Or at least it will show that you gave it a shot.
However, if you feel you are way past this point, seek help from close family. You deserve to be happy.
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