Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
The title speaks for itself.. my family is the most troubled I have ever known! To start with, I was born to teen parents (well mom was 18 and dad was 21) and they were forced to marry cause of me (bad idea.. yeah they had 3 other kids after me, my brothers, but my entire life i have been blamed for their marriage and their life failures)...
We lived with my grandparents (mom's parents) .. and their other 4 kids aside from my mom.. my grandfather was an alcoholic as well as my uncle, my mom and my dad .. another uncle was a drug addict.. I grew up in a place with fights everyday, watching my uncle overdose over and over, seeing my mom drunk all the time and i had to take care of the babies myself.. this at age of 8-9 years old..
When I thought things would get better, we found out my dad had cancer.. my mom left the next day and run away with another man .. i was left alone at age 17 with 3 younger brothers to raise.. grandparents took us in, but grandma is a pretty messed up person as well.. my grandpa eventually died as he was sick too, and so did my dad ... I had to drop out of school and get a job.. to support my 3 brothers, my grandma and her son (yes my drunk uncle got divorced and returned back to our place) .. and for years i worked alone to feed them, under the threath that i would be put out of the house if i didnt help them (pay for everything they mean) ..
No wonder I got depressed eventually and tried suicide several times...
We lived with my grandparents (mom's parents) .. and their other 4 kids aside from my mom.. my grandfather was an alcoholic as well as my uncle, my mom and my dad .. another uncle was a drug addict.. I grew up in a place with fights everyday, watching my uncle overdose over and over, seeing my mom drunk all the time and i had to take care of the babies myself.. this at age of 8-9 years old..
When I thought things would get better, we found out my dad had cancer.. my mom left the next day and run away with another man .. i was left alone at age 17 with 3 younger brothers to raise.. grandparents took us in, but grandma is a pretty messed up person as well.. my grandpa eventually died as he was sick too, and so did my dad ... I had to drop out of school and get a job.. to support my 3 brothers, my grandma and her son (yes my drunk uncle got divorced and returned back to our place) .. and for years i worked alone to feed them, under the threath that i would be put out of the house if i didnt help them (pay for everything they mean) ..
No wonder I got depressed eventually and tried suicide several times...
Ending your life may sound like it is the best thing to do because I am sure everything feels hopless to you at this point but I really do think if you give yourself a chance to let people help and support you that things will be so much better.
Anyway I know things are hard but I do hope that you take the oppurtunity to see there is a good life out there waiting for you. Wishing you the very best:)
I know things are not good and you feel hopeless~~but there is help out there. You just need to reach out and find it. It's a good start that you joined this group and are reaching out this way. I know you are worth it!!! Please get the professional help you need. Things can, and wiil , get better. Please try.
And please keep us posted on how you are doing.
Blessings and peace to you!
If your brothers are younger than 18 your grandmother can receive assistance for them. If they are older they should be helping out too. You need to figure out what you want to do with your life. Maybe take some classes.