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I'm attracted to my sister-in-law.

bob445
bob445

My sister-in-law is currently living with us for two months now and it seems like I have developed feelings for her. She, on the other hand, has a foreign boyfriend and doesn’t have any idea about me being attracted to her.  Her older sister, who is my wife, is busy on her work. She travels a lot and seldom comes home. My wife’s younger sister and I are the only ones left at home most of the time. I don’t know why I have developed feelings for her. Maybe because she resembles her older sister so much or I’m just really attracted to her. I don’t know what has gotten into me to feel this way.


Breathe75
Breathe75
It looks to me you have some valid explanations for your feelings just don't act on it. I'm sure your gut is telling you not to go there. This is a hard situation to be in. Is she staying at your house temporarly? In case she is not maybe it would be a good idea to talk to your wife about you guys helping your sister in law to move. I think you need at some point talk to your wife about how you feel if this is going to be a long term arrangement.
GlowAgain
GlowAgain
If you want your marriage to work SIL has to leave your home. I'm sure that won't be easy for anyone involved but its the truth of the matter. When you are struggling against a temptation it does no good to keep it right in front of your face. Be intentional about shifting your focus back to your wife. What do you specifically love about her? Can you put a lovely spark in her eyes with a surprise date? A thoughtful gift? The kind of playful words you used to use when you first fell in love? Treat your wife like the queen she is and it may do more than you could imagine to reignite the spark in your marriage. If you are uncomfortable or unable to share your feelings about SIL with your wife then you have to do damage control on your own and I'm sorry for that..but you would probably be more sorry than ever to corrode your marriage and mind with constant thoughts of another woman. Remind yourself that "hormone" Love and attraction wears of, no matter who the woman of your affections are. Just as your desire for your wife is waning....your desire for another woman would wane over time as well as your hormones change and your affection becomes dependent on real life care and choices.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I agree with the comments above..... This is no good and could really wreck havoc on all of your lives 'if' it was acted upon

Big hug...….. I think your SIL needs to find her own place.....xo
Snipsnipe
Snipsnipe
you could choose to be the man you said you were to your wife when you said your marriage vows
and shut that shit down in your mind
or you could blame "it just happened" and be a spineless lying sack of shit

your call sporto
Melaa
Melaa
SIL has to leave ASAP!!! The attraction is because she is there and your wife not and maybe because she’s younger.... she has to go in relation to your marriage and morals.
calirn13
calirn13
You’re attracted to her because she’s there… She reminds you of your wife and I’m sure she’s doting and attentive. I agree with everybody else Be honest with your wife and tell her she has to leave.
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