Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
This is gonna be kinda long, cause without all the facts you won't get it.
But ever since my mom was pregnant with me my sister hated me. When I was three, she tried stabbing me, twice. And she also hanged me, but my mom found me. She was 7 at the time, so of course mom didn't go press charges or anything. But growing up, she always told me everything I did was wrong, when her and my parents would fight she'd say she hates me and hopes I died. Well each time she needed me, I was there. She tried to hide something from my parents, and I'd keep her secret. I did everything I could to try and make her stop. She'd physically hurt me as well. When I was younger I was overweight, and not the best looking.. She always had the boyfriends, if i had a guy friend she'd go after them. Well fast forward to now, and she hasn't changed. I have though, I don't keep her secrets, I lost a lot of weight, and at times her boyfriends will tell me they like me more (in a friend way) because I'm more understanding. Also, I'm not as nice to her now. She has a son, and a daughter on the way. His name is Noah, and ever since I found out about him he was EVERYTHING to me. He's three now, and we're best friends. When he's scared, mad, sad, happy, or anything, he wants "aunt holly". If she tries to take him, he screams and cries. But she doesn't take care of him. He has mold in his sippy cups, he pees his pants, one time he even cut himself with a knife because she wasn't looking..She has a new boyfriend, and I have mine that I've been with for almost 3 years (we broke up last year but got back together oct. 20th) Anyway, she keeps pointing out how her boyfriend is better, she asks mom "See, isn't Dustin better looking than Noah?" (my boyfriends name is noah as well) the other day at little noah's birthday, she was on the phone with dustin and came over and sat by us and said "Dustin says he's gonna kick your boyfriends ass" then walked off and we heard her say "He's a pussy, he talks shit and can't back it up"... Now, my boyfriend has a job, he has his own place, pays his own bills.. all that stuff. Her boyfriend is in jail for the second time, for beating the crap out of somebody, he has a daughter he cannot see because he was violent, drank, and did drugs (just like 4 other guys she has dated including both kids fathers).. I'm not trying to say mine is better, but seriously? What is so wrong with mine? She tells mom that mine goes out and does drugs and parties with her friends (he doesnt even know her friends, he lives 2 hours away, and I am friends with his boss and friends, I'm pretty sure I know when he is at work and not partying.)
Also, she tells people how big of a slut I am, says I slept with a bunch of her guy friends, a bunch of my exs (I have only voluntarily slept with one guy, my current boyfriend). She tells my friends that I talk crap about them, and they stop talking to me. She tells mom and dad all this stuff about me that isn't true. She says I sneek out, do drugs, smoke, drink. I honestly dont. Yeah, in the past I made some mistakes, but I'm completely clean now. Every SINGLE day I get out of bed, go upstairs, and she says some bitchy little thing just to piss me off. I don't know why, but she seems to get pleasure out of it. I tell mom and dad all the time and they just say, "ignore her"... Well, easy to say. Except she doesnt do it in front of their face. She pushes me til I snap, and I end up looking like the crazy one. I am not emotionally stable, I have cut myself and over dosed a couple times, she pushes me to where I want to do it again, so many times. I literally just want to die. I feel like I hate her. I see her face, and I just want to hit her as hard and as much as possible. I hear her voice and I want her to choke. I feel like I'm a monster every time I'm near her. I tried getting help SO many times, but she ends up making me look like the bad guy and she's innocent. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I'm honestly losing control of myself. What the heck do I do???
But ever since my mom was pregnant with me my sister hated me. When I was three, she tried stabbing me, twice. And she also hanged me, but my mom found me. She was 7 at the time, so of course mom didn't go press charges or anything. But growing up, she always told me everything I did was wrong, when her and my parents would fight she'd say she hates me and hopes I died. Well each time she needed me, I was there. She tried to hide something from my parents, and I'd keep her secret. I did everything I could to try and make her stop. She'd physically hurt me as well. When I was younger I was overweight, and not the best looking.. She always had the boyfriends, if i had a guy friend she'd go after them. Well fast forward to now, and she hasn't changed. I have though, I don't keep her secrets, I lost a lot of weight, and at times her boyfriends will tell me they like me more (in a friend way) because I'm more understanding. Also, I'm not as nice to her now. She has a son, and a daughter on the way. His name is Noah, and ever since I found out about him he was EVERYTHING to me. He's three now, and we're best friends. When he's scared, mad, sad, happy, or anything, he wants "aunt holly". If she tries to take him, he screams and cries. But she doesn't take care of him. He has mold in his sippy cups, he pees his pants, one time he even cut himself with a knife because she wasn't looking..She has a new boyfriend, and I have mine that I've been with for almost 3 years (we broke up last year but got back together oct. 20th) Anyway, she keeps pointing out how her boyfriend is better, she asks mom "See, isn't Dustin better looking than Noah?" (my boyfriends name is noah as well) the other day at little noah's birthday, she was on the phone with dustin and came over and sat by us and said "Dustin says he's gonna kick your boyfriends ass" then walked off and we heard her say "He's a pussy, he talks shit and can't back it up"... Now, my boyfriend has a job, he has his own place, pays his own bills.. all that stuff. Her boyfriend is in jail for the second time, for beating the crap out of somebody, he has a daughter he cannot see because he was violent, drank, and did drugs (just like 4 other guys she has dated including both kids fathers).. I'm not trying to say mine is better, but seriously? What is so wrong with mine? She tells mom that mine goes out and does drugs and parties with her friends (he doesnt even know her friends, he lives 2 hours away, and I am friends with his boss and friends, I'm pretty sure I know when he is at work and not partying.)
Also, she tells people how big of a slut I am, says I slept with a bunch of her guy friends, a bunch of my exs (I have only voluntarily slept with one guy, my current boyfriend). She tells my friends that I talk crap about them, and they stop talking to me. She tells mom and dad all this stuff about me that isn't true. She says I sneek out, do drugs, smoke, drink. I honestly dont. Yeah, in the past I made some mistakes, but I'm completely clean now. Every SINGLE day I get out of bed, go upstairs, and she says some bitchy little thing just to piss me off. I don't know why, but she seems to get pleasure out of it. I tell mom and dad all the time and they just say, "ignore her"... Well, easy to say. Except she doesnt do it in front of their face. She pushes me til I snap, and I end up looking like the crazy one. I am not emotionally stable, I have cut myself and over dosed a couple times, she pushes me to where I want to do it again, so many times. I literally just want to die. I feel like I hate her. I see her face, and I just want to hit her as hard and as much as possible. I hear her voice and I want her to choke. I feel like I'm a monster every time I'm near her. I tried getting help SO many times, but she ends up making me look like the bad guy and she's innocent. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I'm honestly losing control of myself. What the heck do I do???
It sounds like you live in the same house as your sister...is it possible for you to move out to a place of your own? If you can, you should...the sooner the better. If your sister is causing you this much grief, you NEED to distance yourself from her.
Im not sure what state you are in, but you can call the local police station or a counselor at school and they will tell you if there are any legal consequences to you leaving at 17. In my state they do not do anything about it because you are so close to being legal. Is there a relative you could stay with?
Finally - just an idea- almost all phones have a recorder on them now...maybe when you are around your sister you should use the recorder. This would provide you with a clear example to show your parents how she is treating you. I would guess your parents consider her irresponsible and are choosing to have her at home more often to take care of her health and Noah.
Maybe you could just distance yourself from your sister and see what happens. Some distance could help and work on yourself and your health first and foremost.
Good luck