Family Issues Support Group

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StrongerThanYesterday18
StrongerThanYesterday18

I have considered for a long time putting my 3 year old son up for adoption. And its really gnawing at me. 



No matter how bad I want something or someone in my life its important to not be selfish right? 



What matters is what's best for him right?  Regardless of how bad I want to be selfish? 



I love my son with all my heart but I truly feel he'd be better off. We don't have the relationship we should due to many many factors. If someone cares to hear,  I will share.  But I need advice.  Badly. 

Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Stronger from both this and your last post I think you need to get into some therapy no matter what your ultimate decision is

This is massive.... You wrote you only saw your daughter once and a while .... and that you have a lot of problems with your son

I would seek some professional help for all of your sakes.... You may decide that the best thing for your child is to give him up but I wouldn't make a decision without seeking help first

I am happy to listen to you.... I know this must be overwhelming

There is another board that might be helpful..... The Healthy Relationships board.... I'll put up a link for you

My heart goes out to you and your children......xo

https://www.dailystrength.org/group/healthy-relationships
Lolita_Lynn
Lolita_Lynn
My sister put her child up for adoption. She was in an abusive relationship with the father and didn't think having a child with him would be good for the child. She was afraid he would abuse her too, so she put her up for adoption. You need to do what's right for the child. If he will be better off with adoptive parents then go that route. There is also open adoption where you can still see the child, that's something to consider.
Poe1975
Poe1975
Well putting him up for adoption might not be the good thing either because you don't know what he will go through and who's the parents he will have. Some of those parents rape and abuse those kids you would never know. Ask God to guide you and show you the way. Adoption is something you might regret the rest of your life if you have God on your side he will show you the way have faith pray pray pray
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