I am estranged from a family member and it is hard.... Sometimes I do think that it is necessary at least for a while in order to establish boundaries and then you can always reassess it again later..... Big hug.....xo

I believe you should seek out counseling if you have not already done so. Allow the therapist to guide you trying to work out your family issues or recommend that you sever your relationship. Family discord is difficult to deal with effectively from the inside looking out, because the perspective is all wrong. On the one hand you don't want to hang around and let people abuse you (if that's what is going on), nor is it appropriate to simply throw away your family without first trying to work through the issues. Think it over and make a good decision for yourself, for only you know what's going on in your own situation.

I want to say yes, I have been there, but also no, I haven't. My parents are divorced and I've been living with my mom in my grandparents home. Last year she got remarried, got an apartment and moved out. i didn't go with her; the apartment is too small for me, i wouldn't feel comfortable so close to them, and I got constant panic attacks just being there. In that sense, I have to push them away from me, but besides that, I grew too far apart from the rest of my entire family and so none of my cousins really talk to me. I can tell I will be lonely as my parents and grandparents pass away in a few decades, when I am an adult, living on my own because no one in my family talks to me now so why will they when Im older? I suggest you don't cut them from your life, unless you really have to. Stay strong and best of luck!!