Run is right!!!... Turn him in as illegal and you won't have to worry about him coming back after you

You will never have his love unless what you want in the name of love is pain.. ..This is the way he treats women

This is what your children are seeing.... If you have a daughter she's learning that this is how women should be treated and if you have a son he's learning how to treat women

You deserve so much better and so do your children.. I don't know why you think so little of yourself... Therapy can help you with your self esteem

Shame on him... he's told you outright that 'one day he is going to hurt you so bad that there is no going back' and that he has urges to 'just mess your face up'... Why the hell aren't you believing him???.... To hell with his love... this ain't love and you do need to run before he wants to prove it to you

You owe your children more then this... They deserve to be in a safe home

Big hug for you and a blessing...x

Ruddy Toerag. He obviously is using you as a Meal Ticket.

I have this fear inside me that I would end up both a Violent Husband and an Abusive Dad because of my Rageaholism. (I will get my first appointment with my life coach tomorrow)

I agree with SunCloud, turn him in as an illegal ... but you might want to coordinate with local cops where you simultaneously charge him with assault and domestic violence, they pick him up, and deport him with open criminal charges against him.

Then invest in a couple of real big, territorial dogs.

You are harboring an illegal alien and YOU could lose your business and go to jail.

A child isn't stupid. They will know what happens and you are teaching them low self esteem by letting them see what you put up with.

Report him. And I love the dog suggestion, too.

Get a lawyer, first, though.

You should not have to run; you should get rid of this guy and then spend some time in therapy to figure out why you allowed this to happen.

I don't understand how he is illegal now that you are married? Or did I miss something?

But regardless of that, you need to leave this man. If you won't do it for yourself - which you should - you need to do this for your children.

He may not be slapping or hitting your children (yet, or that you know of), but they know he is abusing you. Kids are smart. You may think they aren't seeing it, but they know.

Also - what will happen to your kids and who will care for them if he messes you up to the point where you cannot care for them or worse, if he ends up killing you?

And don't say "my mom will take care of them" or "my sister" or whatever... Kids needs their MOTHER. For your kids sake, you need to turn this guy in, leave him, divorce him, do whatever you need to do to protect your kids and give them a better life.

You're teaching your kids that it's OK to treat a spouse like this. Whether it's your daughter thinking it's OK to stay with a man who abuses her, or a son that is learning it's OK to abuse women. It's wrong.

Be careful when you leave, though. Because he is violent and has stated that if he goes to jail that he might as well "make it worth it"... be smart about your leaving strategy.

Get a PO Box and have all your important mail sent there.

Get a cell phone that he doesn't know about (like a track phone or one of those disposable type phones) that you can use.

Figure out a safe place to go like a friends house or relative's house that you trust, in case you have to leave. If you can get him to leave - or have him arrested - immediately have locks changed and make sure windows are secured and locked. Don't leave the garage open or unlocked, that is an easy entry way for people trying to break in.

Document everything. Write down dates, times, what happened. Take photos of any bruises or redness or anything.

If there are any weapons in the home, remove the bullets and keep the bullets in a separate locked area from the weapon itself. This way if he tries to use a weapon he will have to hunt for the bullets and that will get you time to escape.

Protect your business. Also, he may think that if you die, he will inherit everything. Make out your will or plan your estate carefully so that everything goes directly to your mother, children, etc. but NOT to him.

But most of all, you just need to get you and your children away from him.

Leave, that is not a healthy relationship, I tended to stay in unhealthy relationships due to the fear I'd never find anyone else, but eventually I left. You are worth so much more than he thinks.