Family Issues Support Group

Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.

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Ghost123
Ghost123

When I was younger, life was so chaotic. I spent so much time and energy trying hard to get out and start fresh somewhere else, a more stable life. I used to travel and sign up for a million things to escape and also resume build so that I knew I could be independent. Now I have a good life, stable and financially independent, yet I have these days where I still just want to run away. I want to get a one way ticket to somewhere else and start over, and sometimes I can't shake the feeling. Its almost like when things are calm and good for too long, I miss the chaos almost, or miss the running away. I have nothing to run away from though. I wonder if I will ever feel okay in the calm life I created long term, instead of for long periods of time inbetween trips or vacations to ease my scratch for an escape. 

NABatz
NABatz
I have different circumstances but one of my biggest problems lately is that I can't seem to just be content. It's like I have to be in a bad place to recognize that I was ever in a good place and all I can do is regret not appreciating it when I was in that good place if that makes any sense. The here and now is never " good enough"
urbangardener
urbangardener
I think our brain learns patterns of behaviors, the ones we adapt to cope, to make sense of our dysfunctional world. I think most adults have times where they want to just run away. Maybe they need a vacation or a new adventure by starting a new hobby. Some people like change, others find change scary, terrible, anxiety producing. I am one who likes change, maybe you are, too?

What do you think is missing from your life? Do you have a lot of obligations, or family demands (kids, spouse)?

I was once in a bad marriage and had a lot of daydreams of myself in a better life, different scenarios. Now that I divorced that bad spouse and married a good spouse, I no longer daydream about better life, different scenarios. I no longer need to daydream to feel better about my life, I guess. I realized this was my coping mechanism. Something was missing from my life, real love and partnership with the ex spouse, being married to someone entirely self absorbed.

You may have a maladaptive coping mechanism in needing constant change, being overly busy, etc. Your brain thinks this is adaptive and good though so it goes back to escape in times of boredom or stress perhaps. I am guessing, just something to think about.