If you live in your parents' home and your mom takes you places in her car and what you read and watch is negatively influencing your behavior, then your mom can set rules. You live in your parents' home and they take you places, you follow their rules.

The alternative is to get a job, get your own place, move out and be responsible for yourself.

I'd see this as an opportunity to ask her WHY she feels that way. Open up the dialogue. Maybe she's seeing things that concern her. Don't be defensive- just listen.

Maybe she has valid points.

18 is young... but it's also legal. Are you going to school? Have a job? Maybe she's worried about you as your mother. Ask her to choose your next book. Seriously. Maybe she'd really open up to you if you are sincere.

I'd be making the comment that, with so much great literature out there, why read the same book THREE times??? Are you obsessing about something in it???

If you don't want her judging your reading selection, get a Kindle that has a password feature and set up an amazon account that she does NOT have access to.

I see your avatar... are you trying to escape life in your book and TV choices???

I read the book 3 times because it's my favorite book. And I picked my avatar picture as sleeping beauty because I love disney. I'm not going to put a picture of myself. It's not fair for her to try to limit everything I do. They're (parents) smothering me.

Violet I have a daughter near your age. I'm thinking your mom is concerned that you will live in a fantasy world. It's easy for people to yearn for a fantasy life...and not just kids. Today we watch so much drama on TV and people allow this to affect their lives. They see people living in mansions and being gorgeous and think that is what they should be and when they aren't they become depressed. And the so called reality TV is even worse. Kids watch these dare-devil shows and think they can try this at home. The injuries and even deaths are unreal.

I guess a fair question is what else do you do with your free time? Are you still in high school? Do you have plans for college or a career? Do you spend time on informative reading like the newspaper or non-fiction books? Do you have hobbies? It's important to have a well rounded life.

I love nothing more than a rainy day curled up on the couch reading a good book. But I don't do that every day. And I don't do that when I have responsibilities waiting for me. Only you know how balanced your life is. Listen to your mom's warning. My guess is she is concerned and not controlling.

Reading's not the only thing I do in my free time. I sing, babysit, talk to my bf on phone. And watch tv w/ little siblings. I am a jr in HS. I read fiction drama books. I like the tension between the characters. And the plots/plot twists. They're exhilarating.

You sound like you want to defend your choices instead of listening to what we older adults have to say.

Is anything we are mentioning getting through to you? What about our questions/suggestions about talking to your mother or your plans after school? Why only 11th grade at 18, btw?

I'm getting a little frustrated at your non-responsiveness; I can only imagine how your mother must feel.

Violet you sound like you are living in the fantasy world of the fiction you love so much. Escapist fiction is nice for a day trip but you can't live there.

Your profile mentions some serious issues. Are you seeing a therapist? My guess is your mom is very afraid of you hiding from reality in the novels you love so much. We can only guess but your mom is right there with you. If you don't have a therapist go to your school counselor to talk about this.

Unfortunately society expects kids to grow up very young and make important decisions. You have another year of high school but this is such an important time in your life. You need to consider whether you care going to college or right to work. Either way there are lots of important decisions to make and things to do to prepare. So it's time to take your nose out of that book and live in the world around you. I'd suggest talking to your mom about these real life things. Also split your reading time between your novels and school work. Nothing wrong with entertainment...after your work is done.

No I haven't talked to her about this. I kind of dismissed this. What happened between us happens all the time. To me it was another silly argument. Yes. The reason I read books all the time is to escape reality. And because it's my favorite thing to do. I reread books because I like them. I read when I'm done with schoolwork or I have nothing else better to do. No I'm not seeing a therapist nor will I go to a school counselor. At least not until I'm comfortable talking to them. I don't like talking to counselors. I don't trust them.

You can't dismiss the issue but expect it to get better.

It sound like you just want HER to change, but won't consider the possibility that YOU may need to, as well.

Why don't you trust the mental health community?

I think that you need to have an open and honest conversation with your mother concerning this issues. As a parent I am able to see your mother's side. I know that you feel that she is trying to rule your life and that you are capable of making wise choices. However, as a mother, she only wants what is best for you even if you feel that she is being controlling. So start with a conversation with her about her concerns and about your concerns. I feel that it is more to the story then her not wanting you to read your teen drama books. You may be acting more like the characters in the book and that is causing your mother concern. I have a teenage daughter who also like to drama books and watching the drama shows, and we often call her a drama queen. Although you may not know it, there is a tendency to start acting like to things that you let into your world. So just think about how you reading these books have changed your attitude or your behavior at home. Are you acting like your favorite character in those books and what does that say about you? You mother is only doing what mothers are suppose to do, so don't be too upset with her about it.

Ok.