I agree. I have recently posted on the bipolar page because I needed some opinions and knew I would not get replies here. There seemed to be a lot more activity awhile back. Too bad not anymore.

i totally agree with you we have this good forum provided to us as therapy. And, is a way to voice out our concerns so we can feel the sense that we are not alone, yet we don't take full advantage of age of it. When I first discovered this web site forum existed i began to post my to the I decided to my blogs onto the Board that was strickly for individuals sufffering from Bipolar Illness. At first, i felt welcome to do that , and now have realized that my posts have unintentionally offended them. And many members have advised me to post onto this the family and friends board, where there is little or no traffic.

here was the last I posted on to the forum for Bipolar Individuals when others on that forum felt offended. See below.

As we draw closer to the New Year, I now feel more hopeful, and Optimistic to start a fresh new chapter in my life. To me, everyday is a new day of life. If the day before was not so good, I look forward to the next day, which can be a better one. Being steadfast, and keeping the faith is what keeps me living and not just existing. We can all exist. But, can we honestly start living again after taking care of a Bipolar parent. Some of us spend most of our lives being the fixers. That is when we lose who we are and simply exist.

We need to come to terms with reality. Change is possible, but we can either spend our lives trying to change others, or we can live and let it Be. And, change is not possible for all, unless they genuinely seek that. I love my Bipolar mom, and must accept her as she is. I bless her with all my heart. Every Night, I forgive her and bless her, so I can have that inner peace when I sleep at night. I do this mostly for me, as I don't wish to have anger and hate in my heart, as it is very unhealthy. Also, my mom may not realize consciously of her actions and behavior, and me holding on to the anger from that can get me sick and she can careless about how I feel. Whenever, I feel any emotions of anger towards my mom, that is when I forgive and bless her. And, I honestly feel that with time, my heart will forgive her and that weight of anger and hurt will be lifted of me.

after reading that i realized i may have offended some by the statement she can careless about how i feel.

Perhaps the reason why many don't follow this forum is because they are hurting so much that they feel that they are at the point of giving up. Please help me come to some common ground,and why no traffic is here. How do we began to heal, if we don't acknowledge the reality of how we truly feel, so we might channel where this anger is coming from. Are we living in denial or are we numb to reality?

Very good post!!! It gives me encouragement but I'm starting to give up on my bipolar girlfriend. It has been a tough year with lots of ups and downs. 4 weeks ago she disappeared without a word. She doesn't answer my calls,texts or emails. I have no idea what I did. Just a week before she disappeared she went through my whole house because she had some weird thought I was seeing somebody else and I'm not. If she hadn't disappeared I wouldn't even think about moving on. She knows I'm there for her. But I have no idea why she won't talk to me at all. This is the first time she has disappeared without a word. I'm at a loss and frankly mad at her now. What a way to spend the holidays.

Let's make a go of the new year and make time to be more supportive of our peers. I need somewhere I can vent and not feel so alone as I'm sure you all Do or we wouldn't be here.
I'm sorry for what you go through loveabp. We are in a similar situation in my home. Hope things get better.

Thanks Madethkat. I'm trying to be supportive but if I can't get her to answer the phone or reply, what can I do? Wish I knew what to do.

Not a lot you can do. They will withdraw when feeling depressed or anxious. I am in the same boat with my husband. Did not come for Christmas when he said he was going to. And have not heard from him since. Did come a few days before, gave one kid a bike and forgot present for the other one. Now nothing. Sad for her and for me. Living in limbo.

Wow so this is pretty normal behavior. I think this time of year is the worst. Especially the weather doesn't help.

Seasons and holidays can play a big part. Is she taking meds and going to doctor regular?

She's taking mess but has had issues getting them right for the past year. I wish she would see a therapist though

Definitely helps.

I was on here pretty frequently a few years back, and I tended not to come on here as much when things were ok, or if I was too busy with work and school. Where did everybody go?

I dont know we're everybody went. But I'm hoping we can can the dialogue going again and help one another. I know we can use it.

I'm new here and not sure whether my bf is bipolar or not. It is a complicated picture. Yes, I was left alone for the holidays (Christmas Eve through New Year's) and I live with my bf! He just took to his bed for almost all day every day and did not talk to me. Refused to eat a holiday meal, any meal, or open presents. Ignored everything and everybody with one hurtful exception. So he was not totally oblivious, just chose to do so. Usually he is so nice and caring. It is a puzzle. Christmas is hard for him for other reasons, but we have spent it together before and it was better. So this is new behavior.

I found a blog with so many comments which validated my experience with my bf of 3 years. You might find this helpful too, at http://blogs.psychcentral.com/bipolar/discuss/1342/page/2/#comments . I would like people who are facing these issues to discuss them here, as it seems you do too.

So far, it seems from what I see that the medicated bipolar people are less bothered by their condition than those in relationships with them. Then the people who are in relationships with bipolar people. Then the unmedicated bipolar people are the most tormented, but often do not change. Is this right?