Oh my God. Yes, it is, that's all I have to say.

Sorry for your situation, BTDT.

I still get that crap from my X.. He tries and tries to use things against me to get to me to cave to his wishes..

I have gave him endless amount of money, cos he was to poor to eat. .. never seen a dime back..


the other day he lost his his girls friends cell phone/his sims card inside. when she went to boot camp he took over her pink phone.. he called me demanding i find my old phone so he could have it. saying it was his.. that if i didnt find it and give it to him, he would give me back something of mine he has.. well i never gave him the phone. cha.. sucka.. so he went and got a new one..

Then he had the balls to ask me for more $$ I said I dont have anymore i am broke. He states back at me that I have the money his dad sent me for the boys holiday.. I looked at him dead in the eye and said "key word its the kids money, and no i am not giving a dime of it cos i will never see it back"

he went irrate on me, cos he didnt get his way.. blah. i just tossed my hands up and said "Convo done" and walked away..


you have to remember that half the time what they say they will do they wont do it..

I have tested him a million and ten times.. he's never gone thru with his words..

That's him to a T!!!

Manipulation is certainly NOT just something that BP people do. many many many many (etc etc) people are this way.

The act of manipulation, l beleive you wouldn`t find many people here that haven`t experenced it on some level. My hubby and l are seperated yet l still find it very hard to brake away from his manipulation tacticks- good luck Jane

I"m not sure, I have a child with bp but also has ODD, and possibly borderline person dis. she's very good at the manipulating part! everyone she comes in contact with. BUt don't know which diagnoses causes that. I have bp2 and I am not like that.

My husband was indeed a master manipulator, in fact "brilliant" in many ways as are most BP's. They learn to tell you EXACTLY what you want to hear.

I don't think that manipulation is truly part of BP disorder. However, that is just my opinion. I have not researched it. I know several people with bp disorder who do not appear manipulative. Also, I think many people who suffer from a mental disorder may have more than one. Therefore personality traits, environment, etc. all come into play. I have known someone with borderline personality disorder and she was very manipulative. I don't know if this was any help for you, but this is just my take on it.

I've not heard of people with bp disorder being great manipulators. More likely part of his anti-social personality disorder. I think people forget that nothing is clear cut. A person may have coexisting conditions.

Godschild,

I think you are really missing your own point. You are divorcing him for VIOLENCE, whether he is a manipulator or not is completely beside the point. Stick to your guns and divorce him if not to just protect you but also your child(ren).

I am really beginning to see a trend that many of us get into... we stick around because our spouse is BP, but that doesn't mean crap when physical abuse etc starts to occur. You have to protect yourself and the rest of your family.

Excellent advise Hablur!

Where have ya been?

Not to high-jack this thread but ... I have away with pneumonia, travelling for work and travelling to the great Pacific Northwest for Xmas.