Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group

This community is dedicated to parents, siblings, grandparents, other relatives and friends of someone who is Bipolar. The purpose of this community is to help families and friends develop greater patience and understanding, as well as maintain a positive, caring relationships with those diagnosed as Bipolar.

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Godschildtoo 12/17/2007

My ex has been involved with a new girlfriend for the last 2 months. He told my son 3 weeks into the relationship that they were going to get married. Well apparently the relationship has turned sour. Now he is doing the full court press trying to get me to call off the divorce an take him back saying he is a changed man. We separated twice while we were married before he escalated to violence and I filed for divorce.
I, in no way shape or form, want to get back together with him. He is so destructive. Is manipulation a BP trait or just my ex? What have been your experiences on the matter?

deleted_user 12/17/2007

I have a friend who is BP and does have violent episodes. His wife monitors him closely. The meds have him prety stable and he hasn't had one in years.

Maybe your hubby went off his meds?

deleted_user 12/17/2007

I see the tendencies in my wife. Would love to hear from others on this subject too! Maybe we can start a new study and become famous

Godschildtoo 12/17/2007

My ex has always been compliant with his meds, although he does drink while taking them. However, my concern is his ability to MANIPULATE me! He has an argument and an excuse for everything to the point that he wears me down. I find myself losing strength and will power.

deleted_user 12/17/2007

Godschild, I find that in my weekness He is made strong. Try to allow Father God into your weekness its only Him that can truely satisfy!Bipolar is tough and that why we need Him as a source of strength.

Godschildtoo 12/17/2007

Amen...But it is tough sometimes

deleted_user 12/17/2007

I think it sounds like a personality trait in this case. He could be manic or hypomanic, causing the rushing into the new relationship and then rushing out. She may have picked up on his instability and violent tendencies, and known enough to get out fast!

deleted_user 12/17/2007

Yip, I know that too, but isn't He great in allowing us to come to Him as we are?

deleted_user 12/17/2007

When my bf was unwell he was very manipulative & incredibly selfish. If things didn't go his way he'd raise his voice & throw his own adult version of a tantrum.

He would set his mind on something & if anything stood in his way, look out!

Self medicating is one of the worst things your husband could do, alcohol can have a terrible effect on non bp people.

Stick to your guns, you know what you want & it's not worth taking him back just for his sake.

Godschildtoo 12/17/2007

As far as personality goes, he has been diagnosed with a antisocial personality disorder too...

deleted_user 12/17/2007

Uh, no? Not that I know of, the expert manipulators, no?

deleted_user 12/17/2007

Oh, just read thread. yeah, I'd assume it would all about the personality disorder.

deleted_user 12/17/2007

My ex could be pretty manipulative at times, and i can relate to the whole argument/excuse until i was worn down thing!!

deleted_user 12/17/2007

I'm almost afraid to comment on this one because I do not have an ex diagnosed with this, but my son is and he has manipulation down to an art form. Not sure if it is the bipolar or just him.

deleted_user 12/18/2007

i know that a lot of abusive relationships tend to involve a bit of manipulation.

this site helped me understand a previously abusive relationship

http://youarenotcrazy.com/

hope this is somehow helpful to you. *hugz*
sorry you've been going through this

deleted_user 12/18/2007

My mum is very manipulative, but she does (in all likelihood) have Borderline personality disorder as well as the bp.

My mum manipulates every situation she can, whenever she can, and manages to put people on such guilt trips with it too.

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