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Independent2014
Independent2014

This is a post from another forum from Rew's son: 



Hello,



This is Ralph's son, Chris. I just wanted to pass along to the forum that my dad passed away last Wednesday, 10/23/19, shortly after noon.  He was laid to rest this past Friday, 10/25/19.  I wanted to let the forum know since my dad was very involved in this forum. I heard him speak about the forum often, but we didn't go into too much detail about it. I didn't think I would find the correct board, but a few days ago I found this forum and noticed some of his posts/replies were on here. I wasn't sure if I would be able to login, but dad shared some of his usernames and passwords for other things so I thought I would try something similar here, and it worked.  


 


I know my dad made a post on here in early April talking about his cancer. Dad made it almost 7 months since his diagnosis on April 1st of this year. The first 4-5 months weren't too bad, but he began to rapidly go downhill over the last 2 months or so. He passed away in the hospital after being admitted 13 days earlier. His death was sudden and not expected this soon, but it was very likely he only had a few weeks to a couple months left anyway.  The plan was for him to discharge back to home on hospice, but something happened suddenly in the hospital and now he is gone.  I know it's a "cliché" to say at least somebody isn't suffering anymore, but you don't really completely understand this until you see a loved one suffer so much over the course of 2-3 months.  I know dad didn't want to go on hospice, knowing that the end was very near.  I know he didn't want me and other family members to suffer anymore either or witness his decline until his death, so I'm must thankful his pain and suffering is now over with.


 


I would give anything not to break this news to the board, but I know how much this board meant to my dad and wanted to let everybody know.  After reading through some of his inbox messages and threads, it makes me so happy to know that dad was able to help so many people over the years on this forum.  


 


 


 


Chris

Independent2014
Independent2014
I will miss him more than can be said. His heart was always about helping others. What he did for our movement and to help people in prison cannot be forgotten. I will always remember his heart for the mothers and wives of the people in prison. He had more empathy for them than anyone I have seen in our movement. The way he talked to them and reassured them he was a great man. I don’t know how many people he has helped in total, I know he was a part of many boards, but I know we are all grateful for his time and his heart. You will be missed Rew. Rest In Peace.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Oh no..... My heart is broken..... We talked via email a few times after he was diagnosed and he disclosed to me when he was diagnosed and the treatment that he'd be going through

He was so hopeful and he wanted to live and fight for as long as he could

He was an awesome man …. a great human being and a wonderful friend..... the world has lost a hero

I had a deep respect and love for my friend

There are other boards where Ralph was active and I will share this post with them if it hasn't already been shared...

Ralph may you now be in peace.... Love and a last big squishy hug...…… Jan.....xo
faeryedark
faeryedark
I'm in my office leaking from my eyes right now.
Rew always had such wisdom to impart to people an was always so helpful.
He would often help me find things that I was looking for pertaining to the laws in PA.
He was a bright star, in a dark world and his light will be sorely missed
Independent2014
Independent2014
Thank you @SunCloudJD. I knew he talked to several other forums and I didn’t know them off the top of my head.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Thank you for the post..... He hadn't responded to my last few emails where I just told him I was thinking of him and I've been sending hugs on here but I hadn't heard back

The world has sure lost an awesome man

Do you know if it's been shared on the site that's listed on the top of this page Independent??
broken1003
broken1003
Im so sorry love. He did so much good here. Non judgmental helpful caring man. Prayers for your family.
Independent2014
Independent2014
It was shared on here and on

http://support-for-families.boards.net/

Other than that I don’t know where else it’s been shared.
susieduty
susieduty
Noooo, I just called him as he asked me to ,saying he had so much email to catch up on , but to call him ,I was having issues so thought I would wait , and I called today , no answer , I honestly felt he was the only one that could help me
GrandmaBK
GrandmaBK
Chris, You are a compassionate person to think of us in your own grief. This is not surprising knowing you are Ralph's son. He wrote with wisdom and caring. He did not make this life sound easy for family members, but demonstrated his own survival and told us we can do it too. Thank you for thinking of others at this time. I hope you are comforted knowing your Father brought peace to other people.
susieduty
susieduty
Love and a sweet peace for you and your family Chris , Ralph was my shoulder to lean on ,I wish so much I had called him, maybe I could have been there a little for him , you really did have a wonderful father and if you read his post you can see that ..love susie
Ifeelalone
Ifeelalone
My heart is so heavy reading this tonight. Thank you for logging on to inform this board. Your father made generous contributions to SO many people with his vast knowledge. He helped myself and my husband through some dark waters. Rest easy, Ralph. You made one hell of a difference for a community of people who needed it most.

Chris and family - my sincerest condolences for your loss. He was an admirable man and he will be truly missed.

Love,
Kristen and Jason
Worriedmompa1
Worriedmompa1
I’m so sorry hear your father has passed, he helped me thru the hardest time in my life. He will always have a special place in my heart
Catex
Catex
I am so sorry. I remember a few years back when I came to this site regarding my son being in prison. He responded to my cries for help. His words gave me much comfort at the time. I am back on the this site again as I am struggling with some issues and I am looking for support. I was hoping to find your father again. I am so very sorry to read of his passing. You have my deepest sympathy. Your father sounded like he was a good man.
westie
westie
I've been off the grid for a while ànd seeing this is so sad. Few has helped me get through a difficult time years ago. I was hoping to send him a message. I guess I'll send it heaven. RIP ....
yehbutno
yehbutno
I'm just finding out now about the loss of someone I only knew as Rew, but who's knowledge base and his willingness to share it with complete strangers was nothing less than extraordinary. A rare gem of a human. I had just come to this forum to "grab" some more words of wisdom from Rew to send to my son in prison...per my son's request..only to find out all that is left is what remains. Rew made a such difference in so many people's lives,including yours truly, largely unbeknownst to him. For that, I humbly pay my respects to him and his family. He will be missed.
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