I wonder why one of the women sitting at the table did not take the two daughters into the women's restroom, but maybe they were not related to the young girls.

Here is how I see these things. Your son has to go the extra mile to protect himself.----and I DO mean the extra mile. Nobody will look out for him better than himself. No matter what it takes he cannot put himself in a position where anyone can ever accuse him of anything.

If I had been in the restroom and the men with the two little girls came in, I would get out of there----and quickly. If I had entered the restroom and seen two men in there with younger girls, I would have turned around and walked right back out until they left. I realize it was your husband who went in there, but I am just hypothesizing what I would do if I were your son.

The reason is simple-----no matter if a registrant is in the right or wrong or if he has an excuse or not, it he somehow gets accused nothing else will matter. Any sex offender who is subsequently accused of another incident does not have a snowball's chance in hell of making anyone believe the truth that he was not guilty of some misconduct.

Personally, I never go to places where I can get into tight quarters with children. I also have a policy that no female ever enters my house without her BF or husband present. If she wanted to start trouble, it would be just my word against her word and we all know how that usually turns out. Same for the car. No single female will ever be in my car when I am there.

These seem sort of drastic preventative measures to take, but they are absolutely necessary. If a registrant ever finds himself in a courtroom or a jail cell after being falsely accused in one of these situations, he will have wished he had been more careful.

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My husband walked in and walked back out and waited for them to come out before he went back in.After dealing with the so called justice system even my husband has become more aware of his surroundings. My son has to have a safety plan for everything. I guess he should come up with one for this type of situation also.

I'm so grateful for places that have "family" restrooms, where one daddy at a time can take his little girl to the potty, or one mommy at a time can take her little boy. I think that would solve a lot of problems. I always cringe when my non-SO son has to take my granddaughter into a public restroom.

On a few occasions when I was with my dad, he would take me to the men's room. He'd always make sure the whole room was empty, then guide me to a stall and wait outside the closed stall door. If a gut came in, he'd give 'em the heads up, then have me wait till the room(at least the urinal area) was empty so I could leave.

I would have to agree why didn't the girls mother's take them to the rest room at that time,but there are times where the mother or sister is not around to do this so the father or brother has to do this and if your paranoid about this then my advice is stay at home and never leave your house because you've let the system control you and how you live i maybe on the registey but i don'tet it control me

Yes Worried, it is a great idea to come up with a safety plan for those types of situations. Not because there is any risk, but because it will show that his therapist and PO that is willing to jump through their hoops.

I hate going into the bathroom when kids are in there, it has nothing to do with me having been on Probation or having had a safety plan before. I just like it quiet in the bathroom lol, and kids are the opposite of quiet.