There's one in Ct, teacher w/ a student who just turned 15. He's afraid he might be the father of her newborn . . .

A member of my distant family was arrested years ago for having sex with a minor under her care. He was a very young teen, she was in her 40s. The police told her husband if it was him he would be in jail. She got nothing but a fine and put on the register.

a fine is maybe "nothing" Male or female, getting put on the register IS quite Something.

I wholeheartedly agree Janet! The registry is not nothing, neither is probation. Rew has said he would rather do more time in prison than have to do probation when he got out.

But to say she got off lighter than if she was a man, no doubt she did. I think we have to take into consideration harm done. I think that boys, especially boys at that age think about having sex with girls more so than the reverse. I personally believe with no psychological research to back this up, that relationships like this are less coercive than relationships between a man and a girl. Just my personal opinion. Would love to hear what others think.

The register isn't nothing, not what I meant and apologies if you took it that way. Our register works a little different. The public don't have access to it, you aren't informed if an offender moves in close proximity unless they are ViSORs, your employer doesn't need to know unless you work with children and even then they can keep you on if they wish as long as your offenders management decide it is ok and you aren't on a SOPO.

By "nothing but a fine and the register" it's simply my opinion that it was very lenient for grooming a young teen with serious mental difficulties under her care. A fine can be classed as a caution which is 2 years of registering or it can be classed as a community order which is 5 years. The Sheriff decides on which one.

The young lady in this story received a fair sentence and her punishment actually fit the crime EXCEPT for the lifetime registration. A young man her age having sex with a 14 year old should warrant a sentence similar to hers.

A lifetime of registration for anyone except violent predators is just an injustice, pure and simple.

The disparity in the sentences between men and women who have committed basically the same crime is an indictment on our criminal justice system, but the proper sentence should be in line with the one the young lady received.

We have a bad habit in this country of not making the punishment fit the crime.

The lifetime registration is absolutely ridiculous and considering the nature of her crime, I cannot think of any rationale for placing her on the registry for life. She certainly is not a continuing menace or danger to society and the chances are close to zero that she will ever re-offend.

But politicians----and the people who elect them----love the sex offender registry. Being an advocate of the registry is a sure fire way to get re-elected each term for the politicians and gives the losers in life a web site to browse on Saturday night in an attempt to remind them that a group of people are suffering as much as they are. I believe "misery loves company" can be applied to the losers who get great joy in seeing a registrant's photograph on the registry. It makes their failures in life seem trivial, I suppose.

As far as serving time in prison in lieu of probation, sure I would rather be in prison a few years more than serve a long probation term. Why? It's simple, prison is a lot easier than sex offender probation. In prison there are no polygraphs, POs do not show up at your door at all hours of the night, no fees and fines to pay, no curfews, no being told where you can and cannot sleep at night or live, etc. And guess what? We had no Halloween restrictions either!!!!

We have turned the registration process into a form of "virtual incarceration" where the government can legally keep an eye on every registrant without having to pay for them being in prison.

Regarding the entire sex offender situation, the politicians are happy as it gets them re-elected, the losers in life are happy as it gives them someone they can look down on, the middle class do not care since they are just trying to survive, so everyone seems to be content.

Except the registrants, their families, and the people who support them.

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wow just wow had this been a man he would have been strung up by his private parts.the sex was consensual ??? when its a female 14 year old they would have been SCREAMING that a 14 year old CAN NOT consent to sex! I have read stories when its a man and he says the same thing I was drunk or I was high and the man was skinned alive sorry rew but I do not agree with this the punishment fit the crime if you have a law for one then you should have a law FOR ALL sure she has lifetime registration but come on you really think this is fair???

I'm not sure why people are advocating for harsher penalties. If anything the more female sex offenders who get sentenced fairly for this sort of thing the better it is in the long run for future offenders. Rew isn't saying it's fair based on the sentences men receive but it's fair in general. 19-21 year olds who have sex with 14 year olds who are developed are most likely not pedophiles and they should not be punished like they are. This isn't something we want, but it's also not a national hysteria that teenagers are having sex. They are going to do that.

Firecracker,

I don't know if you misread my post, but I said that, other than the lifetime registry----which I did not agree with, I think she received a fair sentence for her crime.

For Christ's sake, she only received a two year probation sentence---no prison time. Disregarding the lifetime registry which I mentioned, you don't think a two year PROBATION with NO prison time is fair?

What do you think would be a fair sentence? Nothing? I think she got a sweetheart of a deal.

I was pointing out that she got the deal that men committing the same crimes should always receive. I did NOT say that it was a fair sentence if you compare her crime to a guy who commits the same kind of crime and receives 10 years prison time; in that case a guy would receive a bad deal.

What I did say is that a two year probation sentence for a crime of these circumstances is fair and should be the punishment for BOTH males and females who are guilty

I don't know how much more fair----lenient---a prosecutor can be than to give someone pleading out to a sex crime only a sentence of two years probation.

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Having sex with a 14 year old is not even in the same atmosphere as a 6 year old. Why for the most part do we treat it similar? I don't understand.

Both are wrong, but one of them is a much bigger issue in my opinion.

Here is how I look at these cases. I am tickled to death that this young lady received a fair sentence. Her sentence is the closest thing to justice I can imagine. We should never be aggravated when any person---man or woman---- receives true justice and a fair sentence.

I don't wish a more harsh---and unfair sentence----for her just because guys are receiving a harsher sentence or even prison time. Instead of wanting people like her to get increased sentences in comparison with men who commit the same crimes, I would like for the men to receive the same sentence as she did.

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Well said Rew.

omg!! youre right REW I DID read your post wrong lol sorry I think I was only on just 2 sips of my coffee this morning when I read it