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I just found this group today and must say I'm so happy to have found it. One feels so alone when one is faced with this kind of thing.
My 39-year-old son's home was invaded by police yesterday. They forcibly entered, breaking glass around the front door, tracked broken glass all over the house, ransacked the place, confiscated my son's laptop and his cell phone, and made him leave. Then they forced his wife, my daughter-in-law to answer their questions without an attorney, on threat they would immediately take their two little boys (both under 10 years old) away, if she wouldn't cooperate right then.
Today, she had to take the boys to child protective services, where they were interrogated and body searched and held for four hours. The CPS will be interviewing every child that has ever visited their home.
My son spent a sleepless night at a motel last night and doesn't know where he will be tonight. I had to leave work early today, because I felt like I was going to either faint or vomit. My son is not allowed to have any contact with the children for an indefinite period of time. It could take weeks for them to determine whether he has any illegal images on his laptop. He uses his laptop for his home-based business. So now, their income is severely reduced for an unknown duration.
My son admits to porn use, but not to anything illegal.
Where can I find out what happens to people who are convicted of having illegal images on their computers? Also, where can I find out what happens if the police DON'T find anything illegal?
Any help will be greatly appreciated.
My 39-year-old son's home was invaded by police yesterday. They forcibly entered, breaking glass around the front door, tracked broken glass all over the house, ransacked the place, confiscated my son's laptop and his cell phone, and made him leave. Then they forced his wife, my daughter-in-law to answer their questions without an attorney, on threat they would immediately take their two little boys (both under 10 years old) away, if she wouldn't cooperate right then.
Today, she had to take the boys to child protective services, where they were interrogated and body searched and held for four hours. The CPS will be interviewing every child that has ever visited their home.
My son spent a sleepless night at a motel last night and doesn't know where he will be tonight. I had to leave work early today, because I felt like I was going to either faint or vomit. My son is not allowed to have any contact with the children for an indefinite period of time. It could take weeks for them to determine whether he has any illegal images on his laptop. He uses his laptop for his home-based business. So now, their income is severely reduced for an unknown duration.
My son admits to porn use, but not to anything illegal.
Where can I find out what happens to people who are convicted of having illegal images on their computers? Also, where can I find out what happens if the police DON'T find anything illegal?
Any help will be greatly appreciated.
To find out what the laws in your state says, you should go to the states website or type in to google sex offender Indiana for instance. SOSEN and Reform Sex Offender Laws are both advocate groups that lobby for the rights and law reform. Both sights are good places to find articles etc. But for what you are needing I would go to your state's General Assebly website and look at the laws. If I were you, I would consult an attorney now!
Msg me if you need to!
Hugs,
RWsMom
SOSEN = Sex Offenders Solutions Education Network
Blessings and hugs to you,
RWsMom
Mother of an SO
So sorry you and your son is going thru this.
Keep coming back here we will try to help you thru this......vent anything on your mind and makes friends.....it is a roller coaster ride for sure once the police think something has been done illegally.
Big Hugs!
Love and prayers for you and your son's family.
Good advice ones have given you.
Love Rhea
My son looked at ONE child porn video and it had already been deleted from his computer before he was turned in to Navy authorities by his wife (now ex). From reading the stories of others, he got off pretty easy with his sentence less than a year in prison ( I believe his good record in the Navy helped there ) but will have to be on the Registry in Ohio for either 25yrs or for life. I guess it depends on what the Navy says. I can't seem to find out anything about it from my local law enforcement.
Try to stay focused on the important things (family and God if you believe). Your family will need your strength and support. And please know that we will be here to listen. I usually can't help much with advice but I can be supportive and I can (and will ) pray for you and hope for a good outsome.
Debbie
My daughter-in-law says their little boys, my grandsons, came through the interrogation and physical examination just fine, seemingly with not much trauma at all. She says she was much more traumatized than they were.
She and my son are doing a little better each day. The first day they couldn't eat or sleep, but they're getting a little more able to do both as the days go by. My son is staying in motels every night, but may come here to stay with me for a while. I told him having him here with me would be the silver lining in all of this. You could tell he had been crying when he answered my phone call this evening.
This hurts soooooo bad! I just want to wake up from this nightmare and forget it ever happened.
Thanks to all of you for your kind, helpful, and comforting words. Where would I be without you?
Big Hugs!
Love Rhea
If my son goes to prison, my next biggest fear is that he will be raped. From reading things on the Internet, that seems like a very scary possibility. My son is not at all the tatoo/body piercings/huge muscles type. He is very compassionate and tenderhearted. He even hates killing insects.
Have any of your loved ones been raped in prison? Am I being overly nervous about this?
I think it probably depends on the state, but the situation my guy is in is not dangerous.He is in a medium level prison (out of three levels) because of his crime. As far as he tells me, there is no real danger there. I too was worried - as was my guy - before heading to prison. But, it hasn't been as bad as he thought.
Honestly, if your son has addiction issues relating to porn, he probably has child porn on his computer :(. Unfortunately, an addict has a hard time resisting things. And traces can be found even if the guy thinks he has erased everything.
I am sorry you are headed down this horrible road. I am willing to communicate with your son's wife if she's interested at any time. Although, I am sure now is not the right time for anyone with all the shock going through everyone's systems.
Sincerely,
Merk
Chances are the police already have something tying your son to child pornography to get a search warrant from a judge. Our attorney said he defended someone that was being charged with possession of child pornography and when he asked to see the images they were of the defendant's 4 year old son. Unfortunately, that was not my son's case.
Is your son in MO also?
As we say take care of yourself and maybe encourage your daughter-in-law to come here and talk to some of the ladies who's husbands are in the same situation.