do what you fell is right either way he will be understanding of you and will love you

stay where you are. i never had anyone visit me in prison and i turned out ok. except for those gremlins. send money but not a lot. what i mean is that you can get a job in prison, but if he's in there for a long time a clear TV would be nice. check with his prison to make sure you know exactly which type and model TV you can send him. also, most prisons won't give him a TV unless he has a headphones to go with it. don't worry about books because all prisons have a interstate library system. any book that is in any prison can be sent to him if it's not in his library. make sure he signs up for classes (college) if he can, because he might get paid for it (18 cents an hour here where i live). he'll understand the visit problem. plus, damn... thinking about moving for your son. wanna adopt me :)

I think you and your son would be better served if you just stay put.

If your son is doing much time, he will make a life for himself in prison, and the visits won't mean as much. Toward the end of my eight year sentence, I really did not care for visits that much. I hated that people would go out of their way to come see me, when I was doing find. I did not need the support that visits bring.

Your money would be better spent just sending your son some money every month. He will appreciate that and in the long run, that will do him more good. The good that a few extra dollars will do will be much more important than a few more visits.

Nothing worse than being flat broke in prison---cannot even afford a damn cup of coffee or a box of Little Debbies.

There really is no need to upend your life just because your son is in prison. He will learn quick enough to be a "big boy" and the visits will not mean that much to him. Not that he is anything but a big boy now, but he will acclimate to prison

On another note, letters are very, very important; maybe almost as important as visits. An advantage of letters is that an inmate can go back and read and re-read them and relive the idea that he is not forgotten and someone still cares enough to write.

Letters are sacred to an inmate. Write, write, and then write some more.

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OH GOOD POINT REW.

letters are soooo important. plus, can't afford a cup of coffee. man that's terrible then again i ran a store while in prison. 2 for 1. :)

Thanks to you gentlemen for your insights. You've helped me a lot. I wish I could adopt all of you.

i know my son would rather i stay where i am, making money and getting on, than be struggling to be close to him. me making money will help when he gets out, which will be the real struggle. write often, visit when you can. he will understand. get a phone number in his area code so calls are more affordable.

Thanks, Jackiecook. I will remember your advice.