I will be glad to help you, but I need to know the answers to a couple of questions.

Is your fiancé on probation or parole, or has he finished his sentence and is only on the sex offender registry??

Do you ever have visitation or custody of your daughter?

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We're thinking of waiting till he's off of probation to try and no I get visit but not after she's adopted out.

You two are really on pretty decent legal ground here. If you two tried to get together and live under the same roof while he is on probation, his PO may or may not care. POs have a tremendous amount of latitude as far as the rules go, but I don’t know if he would refuse to allow him to be in a relationship with you or allow you two to live together. Some will and some won’t, but I can tell you without any hesitation that he will not allow him around your young daughter.

Once he is off probation----and only on the registry----you two can do whatever you want. He will no longer be in state custody with probation and he will have completed his court mandated sentence. His only restrictions will be those set forth by the sex offender registry.

There is no law in any state that tells him he cannot have a child with you once probation is over. Of course, he will have the restrictions of the registry and that may include residency restrictions, but he can have a child with you and both of you will be on legal ground.

After you have the child, there is a slight possibility that someone might file a complaint with CPS that a sex offender is living with a minor child, but I doubt it would go very far since the child would be his biological child. They could start an investigation, but as I said, I don’t think they can really do much about him being with you and the child unless there was some evidence that there was some child abuse going on. I am not sure how the CPS would look at your prior problems, though.

If you care about this guy, then I would have him ask the PO about you two being in a relationship. If the PO has no problem, then you are OK. I would probably not have any children until he is off probation.

If the PO refuses to allow him to live with you, then after his probation is completed, you two can get together, as there are no laws to prevent it.

But no matter if he is on probation or not, him being around your other child would not be a good idea.

If, once you are together and have a child, the CPS begins to give you problems, you can always have a psychosexual evaluation done on him. A positive evaluation done by a professional therapist, which shows he is no threat to children with a very low chance of reoffending would go a long way to keep the CPS off you, IF they cause problems.

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His po already knows I won't have my daughter with me because of her actual father abusing me and he's OK with us trying to find an apartment together. I shook his pos hand and he knows we're getting married.

Most of the problems with sex offenders marrying is when the future wife has a child or children from a previous relationship. Usually the father of the children throws a fit when the sex offender moves in with his new wife and his kids. He then goes to CPS, explains that his kids are living with a sex offender, and they open an investigation. CPS is really tough and it is possible the new wife can have her kids taken away from her.

In your situation, there are no children except your daughter, who is basically out of the picture the majority of the time. It sounds as if the PO will not have a problem with you and your guy marrying, so I say go ahead if you love each other. Later on you can have children and be a family.
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I wish you well.

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Thabk you we got married btw are working things out.