Hire a criminal defense attorney. Be honest with him and listen to what he says. Your attorney can be your buffer when dealing with police or the prosecution. Don't fool around; you will need an attorney.

If you cannot afford a private attorney, a public defender will be appointed for your husband. If your husband qualifies for a PD, one will be appointed at the arraignment or during the first court hearing. The arraignment is the first court hearing where the charges are officially and formally read to the defendant. It usually occurs 48 to 72 hours after the arrest.

It does not sound as if he has been arrested yet, so there is no arraignment yet.

Don't ----DO NOT----talk to others about this case or anything related to this case. Especially keep your mouth shut when dealing with law enforcement. DO NOT tell law enforcement a damn thing. If anyone from the prosecution or LE tries to talk to you, tell them, "Any questions will be handled through our attorney. Would you like the name of our attorney?"

You might get a few of the attorney's cards. If LE---law enforcement--- comes to your house again, hand them the lawyer's card and keep your mouth shut. You want to minimize the damage.

If he admitted to downloading some child porn images to the FBI, I am surprised he was not arrested this morning, but I guess their preliminary examination of the digital drives yielded no incriminating images.

Sit tight. There is nothing you can do right now. It may take over a year for the forensic unit to determine the number of illegal images on the hard drive.

Pray if you believe in a higher power. Both of you need to stick together; you will need each other for strength and support.

Try to relax.

God bless you both.

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Thank you for your response. I don't think we can afford an attorney . I found some that have free consultations. we don't own a home. We don't have much. I am a teacher and I know that I will have to quit my job. I am beyond crushed about this.

I know we are going to lose all of our friends. I just don't want to tell them why and I don't know what to tell people about why we are no longer online or talking to them. I can't face them.

Now that you are here in this forum, you have a whole new set of friends. We are here for you. Do whatever Rew says. He is the best friend to all of us.

My two incarcerated sons each had his own private lawyer. Long story short, big bucks don't always buy good legal help. Looking back now, I can see the lawyers cared more about dollar signs than my sons' futures. However, I can't imagine how awful it would have been with no lawyers. At least they did shield us from LE.

I found the free consultations with lawyers very helpful. I always did them by phone, put them on speaker, and recorded them with a little pocket recorder. That way, I could listen again later.

Also, I took notes during every phone call with my sons, with family members, with lawyers, with bail bondsmen, and with anyone else. I use spiral steno pads and I still have every single one of them. I wrote the date, time, name, phone number, and content of every conversation.

I also got an SMS backup app on my smart phone, so I could save every text. You can believe LE is keeping track of every detail of the case. It's very empowering to be doing the same for yourself. People take you seriously when you can quote exact details to them of who said what and when.

Hugs to you and your hubby! Stick around here. We do care!

Thank you and hugs to you as well. You advice is so helpful.

I don't know what to tell people. What do I say? During my talk with him, I also found out that he had cheated on me. This is unrelated to the CP investigation. I feel like just telling everyone that we are having martial issues and my parents are ill and we just need time away from everyone. Both of these things are very true.I will be closing my original Facebook and other social media accounts soon.

This forum is a god send.

First of all why will you have to quit your job? You do not ... Listen to the advice of others here - use their knowledge. Educate yourself to the truth about sex offenses and the offenders (trust me it is not what you think). I am sorry this happened - I know it is emotionally confusing and traumatic but you are very lucky to have found us as soon as you did. Also be aware this is not a secure site - so do not use personal info in the forum. Your member name is already top notch!

I know people who are teachers and their LO have been arrested for a sex offense. They didn't loose their job, so you don't have to worry about that (the union will step in if they try).

I do suggest that you start saving for a retainer, especially if it's left to the state to prosecute. The Fed PD, from what I have learned are a lot better at their jobs than state ones.

If I had to do it all over again, I would have done everything I could to have hired an attorney. The only thing his PD did was show up at trial.

Thank you. I am going to call my professional organization (no real union in this state) on Monday to speak to a lawyer. I haven't used any personal info here.

I don't know how to look for a lawyer. I know there must be some info on this site. But, if anyone can direct me that would be great.

My husband is feeling sucidal and it is all I can to to keep it together.

Hello, welcome to the forum. I'm in the IK, but I've been in your exact position, my husband was caught with 60K images of child abuse (I'm also a teacher!). You *will* get through this, as will he. It's a horrible, awful, surreal nightmare, that will keep unfolding for some time. But keep putting one foot in front of the other & slowly, life will improve....mine was suicidal too. Tell him very clearly that no matter what he's done, the worst thing he could do to you is commit suicide. Hang in there x

* Uk not IK!

Thank you PhoenixMumm. They did not find anything on his computer but they took it. He said he downloaded files and then deleted them. I would love to talk more with you about your situation. Maybe we can PM sometime.

Yes, that's fine! Sorry for the slow reply, I've been locked out by the site update until now.