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Believe me this is a rare occasion that I am at a lose for words. When my husband was first accused and convicted of this crime I was all alone. I'll never ever forget the day I found out he had been found guilty. I had been calling off work and trading shifts for months to be there. Finally his lawyer said Nicole they have no evidence only the little girls testimony so just go to work today. Like an ass I said ok. Back then I believed in the system and his lawyer.hours later while on break I listened to my voicemail and it said, "sorry Nicole your husband was convicted have a nice day" wow I thought my life will never be the same.
I cried and cried. My boss sent me home. I don't know how I drove there were so many tears.Life as I knew it was over!
I wasn't my same cheerful, joking self. I felt alone.I had so many questions and I just needed someone to talk too. I joined other support groups thinking I would feel better if I talked to someone. I thought another wife whose husband was incarcerated would be the answer.All was fine until they found out the crime and then they got disgusted.At first I tried explaining my husbands innocence but they weren't buying that. It just ended up in an argument. I thought you people think your loved ones are better because they committed murder,burglary,assault etc..oh and of course some are innocent but my husband can't be.
I said I guess it was not meant for me to talk to anyone. Then one night on April 27,2014(I will never forget that day)I ran across this site. I joined and in less than 1 month ALL my questions that had been bottled up since 2006 when this all began was answered.
It was easy to ask you all because I didn't have to beat around the bush because we all have had in the past or is currently having this problem.
I never really thought much about the name"DAILY STRENGTH" but I see what it means cause you guys gave me strength and courage daily. You believed in me when I didn't believe in myself. When I first came on this board I was a damn mess.
Ok I know your all saying I wish she shut up now but I talk nonstop when I cry.
Well you have seen me through this hurdle.no more years to wait for him to come home only months now.
I'll still be on the board because I will have questions about after there released?
What I want you all to know that I thought this was one of the worst experiences of mine and his life but not only did it make us stronger as a couple as weird as this may sound some good came out of it?I got to meet you all and thank each and every one of you for your advice and lending me your shoulders when I needed to cry and your ears when I needed to vent. Your the best friends I ever had. I love you all!
I cried and cried. My boss sent me home. I don't know how I drove there were so many tears.Life as I knew it was over!
I wasn't my same cheerful, joking self. I felt alone.I had so many questions and I just needed someone to talk too. I joined other support groups thinking I would feel better if I talked to someone. I thought another wife whose husband was incarcerated would be the answer.All was fine until they found out the crime and then they got disgusted.At first I tried explaining my husbands innocence but they weren't buying that. It just ended up in an argument. I thought you people think your loved ones are better because they committed murder,burglary,assault etc..oh and of course some are innocent but my husband can't be.
I said I guess it was not meant for me to talk to anyone. Then one night on April 27,2014(I will never forget that day)I ran across this site. I joined and in less than 1 month ALL my questions that had been bottled up since 2006 when this all began was answered.
It was easy to ask you all because I didn't have to beat around the bush because we all have had in the past or is currently having this problem.
I never really thought much about the name"DAILY STRENGTH" but I see what it means cause you guys gave me strength and courage daily. You believed in me when I didn't believe in myself. When I first came on this board I was a damn mess.
Ok I know your all saying I wish she shut up now but I talk nonstop when I cry.
Well you have seen me through this hurdle.no more years to wait for him to come home only months now.
I'll still be on the board because I will have questions about after there released?
What I want you all to know that I thought this was one of the worst experiences of mine and his life but not only did it make us stronger as a couple as weird as this may sound some good came out of it?I got to meet you all and thank each and every one of you for your advice and lending me your shoulders when I needed to cry and your ears when I needed to vent. Your the best friends I ever had. I love you all!
It has just passed 7yrs of his 30yr sentence and it still seems like a nightmare that will not end so I pray this forum will be here for myself and the many others that have and undoubtedly will continue to join looking for the same help and support as I did .
I too thank you all and send everyone many blessings and love.
I too am very thankful for the people on this forum, and I only wish I could've found this site years ago. But I'm glad to be apart of it now!
I am grateful too for this group, I don't know how I would have survived it. This group gave me the strength when I had none. I look forward to the day that hubby is released.
It is not even a contest. This forum beats the others hands down.
Other forums seem a little "cold"----formal--- at times and not as caring as this forum. Some forums have sort of created a class system where some posters are treated better than other posters; and many of those posters do indeed think they are "above" the new posters. These forums do not create an atmosphere in which a person with problems can talk out in the open without fear of judgment and ridicule.
Our forum is very, very good at everyone pitching in to help each other. Nobody is better than anyone else on this forum, trust me. We share our stories and we learn from each other. One asset this forum has is that it is not only a source of comfort, but of advice also.
When a mother, wife, or family member is new to this situation, they are scared, confused, and many times their feelings are worn on their sleeves. The last thing they need is anyone saying anything resembling judgment. At this point they need help----and this is a very good place for that.
I think some of the forums seem to forget that at one time we were all new to this situation-----nervous, scared, afraid of the unknown----and they cannot be as effective for support as this forum.
This forum is just a bunch of great people who have either been through this mess, are in the process of going through this mess, or are just starting this long journey.
We care.
We don't judge.
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Thanks everyone.
Nicole good luck to you and your husband. I pray everything works out for you 2 as it will be a rough road when he gets out.
This board has helped me understand so many different aspects of this process. I personally have never dealt with anything with the legal system outside of traffic tickets and few stupid things my brother has done that involved the court.
Thank you all, and blessings to you Nicole :)
Thank you to all the admins for keeping the peace and making this still the best place to come for support on the web for families of SOs.
Everyone here, KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK!!!
We need each other to get through this mess. And, yes, thanks to our mighty Admins, it has stayed a clean and supportive group. Trolls don't last long here, because love is more powerful than fear...and there is a lot of love here!