I am sorry for what you are go I g through I'm here if you need to talk

Maybe message Rewdiazepam - he might know some legal steps to take.

My son has still not been released from the parole violation. Was told they could only hold him 72 hours. They are coming up to it. Talked to son yesterday, he is worried about his job.

My son will be taking his first polygraph test soon. They make me uneasy. I’m told if he were to fail it they’d handcuff him on the spot. I don’t understand the science behind them (I thought they had been determined years ago to be inaccurate.) Even if you had nothing to hide, it must be nerve wracking to take one. I’m so sorry. I understand your frustration. I’ve also learned that the PO isn’t on our side or here to help. It’s a sad broken system.

LilllyB…. I'm praying for you. My son said he answered the question truthfully as it was given to him. Yet, they would not let him explain.

PO... yeah, she does not help and in fact, I have quarreled with her several times.

Presently we are battling counseling - court said one thing... she another and demanding him travel over an hour to a group session that would put his job at jeopardy.

I'm so frustrated and upset.

He is trying SO hard to do everything right as he doesn't want to go back to prison.

One of our members here, Rewdiazepam, could help with some of the confusion. If you message him, he will help!

Please don’t ever talk back to PO. You need to do everything they say, and then some to earn their trust. They go to seminars that tell them SOs are not to be trusted, they never change, etc. prove them wrong, Have him dress up when he see‘s her and remember she will pretty much own him until he gets off probation

I will try to allay some of your concerns sometime tomorrow or in a few days, but I do want you to read a couple of my commentaries regarding polygraph examinations and sex offenders on probation.

This particular commentary was written for a specific person in a specific situation, so you may read some names with which you are not familiar, but the material regarding the polygraph is valid. All this was written by me on another forum.

Mothers and wives, show this to your loved one before they take a polygraph, as it will give them some pointers on how to avoid a failure or inconclusive result.

Here is my commentary from another forum-----

“Tell your husband to try to relax. A failure on a single polygraph---with no other corroborating evidence---- is not grounds to revoke his probation. Just be himself and tell the truth. He will do fine. He will be nervous---everyone is---- and the polygraph will be intimidating, so he may have a couple of inconclusives on the test. Tell him to remember if he tells the truth, he will be OK.

Having said that, here are some things he must avoid----

When an offender takes a polygraph, there are a couple of things to remember.

First, he must not allow the examiner to use the results of a polygraph as a type of interrogation session against him. Turning the polygraph into an interrogation with the purpose of getting the offender to talk too much is one of the main aims of the polygraph.

If one of the questions show deception----or even an inconclusive result---- sometimes the examiner will badger and pester the offender about why he showed deception or an inconclusive on that question. He will want the offender to give him a reason as to why he failed the question. Most of the time the offender is telling the truth and he has no idea why he failed a certain question, but the examiner will dig and dig and dig for a reason.

As a result, if he has a failed question and is asked why he thinks he failed, he needs to keep his answer short and sweet. He can say, “I have no idea why I failed,” or “I was not being deceptive,” or something equally as short. The very last thing the offender should do is go off into left field on a tangent with a possible reason he might have failed. The normal tendency on the part of the offender is to try to explain why he failed a certain question, but that always gets offenders in trouble.

The examiner wants to get the offender talking to learn about what else is going on in his life while on probation. I treat a polygraph much like talking to the police in an interrogation as a suspect. Keep your answers short, very short, and do not give out any extra information AT ALL.

To give you a more specific example, let’s say that one of the questions was, “Have you abided by the terms of your curfew?” The offender would say, “Yes.” But the polygraph either showed deception or an inconclusive on that question. The examiner may start digging on why he failed that question. The offender should just say, “I don’t know.”----and keep it at that.

Here is what the offender definitely does NOT want to say when trying to explain why he failed the curfew question------“Well, let’s see, I did go to the grocery store, then to McDonalds to pick up something to eat one night. And I went to shoot some pool a few nights ago, but then after that I stopped by and picked up a few items from the drug store.” The offender here is giving away far too much detail in trying to explain why he failed the question. Giving away too much detail can open a whole new can of worms and get the offender in hot water, even if what he did was totally innocent and not against the rules of his probation. Remember, short and sweet----“I don’t know why my answer was inconclusive; I told the truth.” And then keep his mouth shut.

Polygraph examiners may appear to be nice guys----and some probably are-----but they are still working for the state and many do not mind tripping up an offender. I knew the polygrapher in our town who worked for the local PD and this guy was pure trash, so be careful.

Do NOT give the examiner a lot of information to work with in an attempt to trip him up.

The other thing to remember is that for the most part, it is difficult to revoke someone for failing a polygraph without more evidence of wrongdoing. Polygraphs are highly fallible and everyone knows it. If there is a failure, the most the PO will usually do is tighten up his restrictions. Failures or inconclusives on questions are not uncommon, so if he does not pass with flying colors, it is not the end of the world.

Tell him to breathe properly and tell the truth. He will do fine.

Rewdiazepam

Hope this helps.

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Was he sick? Having the flu can case the failure on polugr