Tomorrow is my 3 yr anniversary. My husband is in A state pen. This is how my life has been since I found out he and my daughter had sex 3 times. When I found out this had happened 1 yr ago my daughter made my husband out to be the monster, when in fact they both had issues. In accordance to the law unturned the adult in. Then. I find out she masturbated loudly and asked him to watch at the coercion of another who was on her cell phone listening in, then getting her to grab my husband and tell him she wanted to blow him. The third time she grabbed him she wanted to have sex. My husband the adult, should have walked his ass out the front door when she first started this and called me and sat ooutside until I came home to deal with this. But that's not what happens. He took advantage of her. But she took advantage of the situation too. My daughter is an opportunist at 17. Most are. She got him mo buy her cigs and other things or she would tell. Here's where I'm probably going to be called a horrible unloving Mother. I attend her therapy sessions. Its so much easier for her to be called the victim because she was underage. Its so much easier to blame her developing brain on her not being able to make proper decisions. And we give these teenagers a drivers liscence to operate a 2000 lb vehicle? She had turned into a victim because society said she is. Take away her age and she's just another female having sex with someone much older than herself. I'm tired of keeping my opinions to myself. I went with her 2 weeks ago and she lied to her therapist. 3 weeks prior she had snuck out and got caught by her 10 yr old sister getting oral sex 3 houses down from us. I got her to admit she was using Mary jane. She told the therapist that no she doesn't blame herself for the abuse. Yes she can have a healthy relationship with men.lied just to appease the therapist. I had reported the sex and drug use to the therapist. I was added to a group on facebook for motherS Of survivors. This is a group for real victims. Not my daughter. Her step dad did not just go into her room and take what he wanted. She gave it to him as a sick twisted game for another boy.. Btw I turned that other boy in. He is a PV2 I'm the army and he is being courtmarshalled because ALL the texts and pictures they exchanged were found and showed he possed child pornography. My life was crushed a year ago. My soul mate fucked up big time. I've been forced to be a single. Parent again. My daughters punishment? I've taken things away, smashed her phones, have to take her to therapy once a week, but when I work she sneaks off. I can't lock her down. She fakes her way through therapy. My punishment? I live with all the knowledge and truths that I can't express to society because I would have dhs on My ass and I would lose my other cchild, who still loves her step dad. Their real dad has suddenly reappeared but He is a lazy drunk. They don't want to be around that. I would be ostrasized for my opinions, but it is what it is. I have letters from my daughter telling me What she did and how it went down. My mother won't listen to me. We get into argumearguments.she yells at me saying this is your daughter! My boss is the only one who SeeS through my daughter. My boss was a victim of abuse who didn't ask to be abused. It offends me when I hear the therapist call it abuse. It burns my earrs to hear the word rape associated with my husband. Rape is a violent act. This was not violent. Because TN days she's underage, but this confuses me.. You can walk across state line and in SC she would have been legal. This whole system is screwed up! Georgia teens are more mature than TN teens? I researched a lot and found out TN used to have a law that could charge teens who consented to have underage sex as an accomplice to their own statuatory rape! Of course it was abolished because they were afraid it would prevent others from reporting real rape. I feel how I do and that hasn't changed for a year. I still get angry when I find out my daughter had snuck and done something because it's showing me she hasn't learned a darn thing and really doesn't give 2 shits about me. I'm just counting the days to graduation. She will be 18 and I won't be legally responsible for her anymore. I forgot to add.. There's this "pretty little lliar" next door that I have warned my daughter about hanging with. My husband didn't like her either. Well she was "raped" by a 14 yr old. She told my daughter about it next thing I know is 3 detectives show up at my door wanting to talk to my daughter. They asked her questions and then asked if she ever had any kind of physical contact with this boy. In front of me she said yes. You could hear the grass grow it was so quiet as they observed my reaction! They said I probably have some tho 's to talk about with her. Yes. I did. I explained to her that because she is a" victim" now she is in the system and when they look her up and read what happened to her they are gonna see a pattern with all the teenage girls here and this would hurt her buddy's case. Of course They proved the neighbor lied but that boy did something else that landed him in jail. Omg. What the he'll is wrong with our teens? I don't 100% blame her But I split the blame between my husband and her. He takes 100% He has issues with sex addiction and I believe that's why he did it. But it was not intentional on his part. If anyone outside this group knew how I really felt you know what kind of shit storm I would have to go through..... Especially now my husband is a RSO. And I still love my husband. I love my daughters so much too. That's why I'm hurting so much and angry still because I know my daughter and see what she ddoes and doesn't case about anyone but herself, is there any legal punishment for her? No. I'm the one being punished by seeing my happiness still shattered all over the floor. I'm the one being punished by having to take her to therapy and play bad Parent good parent. I've been holding all this for a very long time. This is my anniversary gift to myself.