Wow. I never knew that.

That's a legal ruling that stinks.

My sons lawyer from here told me that any state where his name comes up in their investigation, can charge him.

My husband molested our granddaughter. He is getting out of prison next year after about 5 years. I have been trying to put my life back together. In many ways, I have a good life now. I am fortunate that I have been able to purchase another property for him to live at so we don't have to worry about residency restrictions. Its been a long time now, but I still have a lot of trouble coping with the thought that this even happened. I have learned to lie about certain things and keep my distance from people who I would like to be able tell what is going on in my life. I don't know what will happen when he is finally released. He will be on probation for the rest of his life. It feels like I am now entering a new phase of the drama. It does not feel safe, but I know that I need to walk through this as best as I can with my head up (and my mouth shut).

I looked back for this thread because I meant to post something on it. I hope others will feel like they can post their stories here, too.

To make a long story short. My husband and I should have taken his daughters mother seriously when she left these words on our answering machine, "BITCH IF I CANT HAVE HIM YOU WONT EITHER" we thought it was a joke, we knew she wanted him back but we were engaged. Right. so that should have been end of story but no she went to the police her and her friend and told them he had been molesting his and her daughter for years since she was 4 and he gained full custody. She built up the courage to tell when the girl turned 8. Even though there was no evidence at all and the child denied it (at first) and he had NO record not even a speeding ticket they found some and gave him 10 years.
While they were digging for evidence he had a disagreement with his daugter and she told her mom to go back to the police because suddenly she remembered him getting on top of her and having sex with her.
A few months later she denied that and said it was only oral sex...... she cant get it straight and the system doesnt care!

My future son in law raped a woman. He was out at the bar and on his way home broke into a womans apartment and brutally raped her. He plead to 2nd degree sexual assault and strangulation. My daughter supported him throughout this. And so did i. It was not easy. He was just sentenced to 10 years prison. While this case was pending i was torn. I didnt want my daughter hurt. I trusted her boyfriend. I came to love him like a son. However what he did was so bad and so against everything i believe in. I chose to support him because i love him. I hate what he did. It makes me sick to my stomach. But when all is said and done he has always treated my daughter with the utmost respect. He has been kind and caring. He is respectful to her and my family. I will always think of him as my son in law. Now its time to encourage my daughter to move on. We cried today. We talked about him. We wished it didnt happen.

With this said now its time to tell you who i am. What i do. Where i work. Not the specifics. I am a police officer. Been on the force for 23 years. I arrest people who do this. I hate the people who commit crimes. I loathe those who take advantage of women or children. I despise the dredge of society. Until now. I never thought i could love someone who was or is a sex offender. It took this situation to see the other side. It took this to have compassion for those who commit crimes and their families who support them.

I always thought that if someone hurt my children as bad as my daughters boyfriend did, i would easily take him out. If this happened to her i would have fought to get him behind bars forever. But i advocated for him. I wrote to the judge as a character witness for him.

So as you all think about your situations please keep mine in mind.

finally adding my story to this.

my daughter was arrested in an FBI sting for CP. she has 9 1/2yrs left to go in prison. she does not understand or have any idea why she did it. and needless to say, neither do i.

like westdenali, i too was on the other side in my feelings about sex offenders. and to tell the truth i never, ever gave it or them a thought, except that i was glad that they were caught. and i never gave a thought to all the collateral damage that is done to everyone and everything that is associated with someone who has been arrested and convicted of an SOL.

and never did i realize that even after prison and probation the punishment goes on and on. and because of the registry, for some, it goes on until the day they take their last breath. i guess maybe even then, in some cases, the punishment goes on after they are gone because of the family left behind.

My son got addicted to online porn. Idk how long he was looking at porn before he found cp and started looking at that too. He had a free account on limewire and although he didn;t mean to share, one of the videos did get shared, which was how he got caught.

We were fortunate that his case didn't go federal although the DA tried to make it federal. He ended up getting a suspended sentence(5yrs all suspended but 1) which he did at the county jail and 5 yrs probation, which will be completed on Jan 9th, 2017.

I got mixed up with a 17 year old, when I was 43. We partied together booze and weed. On one occasion I made a pass at her, kissed her and felt her buttocks. She freaked out and told her mom. Next thing I know I was arrested and charged with felony counts of aggravated sexually assault corruption of minor. Pled it down to misdemeanor indecent assault and corruption of minor. I was sentenced to 11 and a half to 23 months with 7 years probation and a 10 year registry. Adam Walsh took affect and I went to lifetime registration. Tried to argue the lifetime the judge said there was nothing he could do. So he reduced my probation to 3 years and relived me of sex offender treatment classes. I just finished probation.

My partner was fooling around with his roommate. Both adults no sex just kissing and touching. He told her he was moving out. She kissed him and touched him that night he touch her back then stopped when she said she was tired (no clothes came off) The next day she asked if he was still moving out. She charged him on the day he moved out 9 day later. Attempted rape of person unable to make a decision. She claimed she was asleep. He got 10 years probation and 30 day jail. Even though he is on probation and we are married (took 3 years for it to go to court) I haven't seen him for 1.5 years (probation restriction)