I definitely would. That is just my opinion. When my husband and I moved into a neighborhood that we noticed had a lot of kids, and our kids started to play with them. We actually went to a few of the kids houses and informed them of his charge, and that if they ever had any questions not to hesitate to ask. When we lived in a previous neighborhood, we did not do this, and there was actually some parents that wouldn't let their kids play with our kids. It was very upsetting, so when we decided to move due to the negativity, we decided to inform those who lived near us. It is out of respect, and to make them feel better. I am sure they would respect you a lot more than if they were to come across it on the internet.

The parents of the kids who are some to the house, know. Most of them were around when my step-daughter made her false accusation and so they've stood by us. Of course they also know the my BIL & SIL who manipulated her into making the false accusation too, so they know the whole drama
My boys do have a few other friends whose houses they go to, but the kids don't come over here. Those parents, I have felt the need to spill the whole tale to. My oldest is 18 anyway.
Altho' my SIL took it upon herself to try and 'warn" my sons' friend's parents
The one told my SIL to get lost, she was just a trouble maker.
The other parents were of my youngest son's girlfriend. They insisted she break up with him...my SIL did it deliberately cos her son liked the same girl.
That's okay though, cos it was pointed out (and the court records where show, by oldest who printed them off) to those parents that my SIL's oldest son will be on the registry when he gets out jail cos he was messing around with a 12 yr old when he was 22. Suffice it to say, the girl wasn't allowed to go out with her youngest son either.
Gotta love my idiot in-laws...without them, my life might actually be somewhat normal sigh.....

*who come to my house* wish we could edit

*those parents, I haven't felt the need to spill the whole tale to*

Always,

You and your family would be better served to be honest and upfront with the neighbors who have children that might become friends with your daughters.

First, people respect honesty. They may not like to hear your story, but the fact that you were honest with them shows the respect you have for your neighbors. And they ARE your neighbors and you HAVE to live with them---and it is best if you can have a decent relationship with them.

Secondly, if your story comes from your mouth, you will have control of the facts and how the story is told. No, don't lie, but you can mention that this incident happened in 1990 when your guy was 18 years old. If they hear your husband's story from someone else----maybe even the neighborhood gossip---you can bet that the story will be embellished in the worst way and full of inaccuracies. Better for them to hear it from your lips than from someone else.

Trust me, at some point they will find out anyway, so it is not a case that if you never say a word they will never find out. We live in the digital age and there are no secrets.

People don't like surprises. If your daughters and their daughters become friends and they then find out about your husband's charges, they will not be very happy.

If you are honest and respectful with your neighbors, it will be much easier in the future and it will create a more positive image of your husband in their mind.

SOs are judged as much for how they act as their past crimes. If you show you are a good neighbor, they will not see your husband as the "neighborhood sex offender", but as an 18 year old who made a stupid mistake.

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Because of this registration effect it is really hard to live day to day. There are many days I would like to run away and leave him. I lost most of my friends and my two children because of his now registered "SO". However, I get little support from my church when they found out about it they were broken hearted for him. He has been a head deacon for many years until of this outcome, and they knew him so well. Just like I am shocked at first but because of his good character it overlook his alleged conviction. We are still hoping that laws will changes. One of the bretheren even mention if there is no court order he should not even register in the first place. But, the letter we got from county police department that he must otherwise will arrest him. My husband is one of those most dutiful citizen. He just follow to orders like he still in his military days. What sad about it his own parent would not even allow him to stay with them temporarily until I can a place for us. If not for our strong belief we probably perhaps gone suicidal long time ago. Our faith the only thing that keeping us insane and strong. Living paycheck to paycheck and burying myself to personal loans so we would not be on the streets week to week quite stressing for me alone. There are many weeks we get so hungry hoping the end is near.

Thanks everyone for the advice. I talked to my husband and explained my feelings on this subject and he agrees that we need to sit down and tell kids friends parents. The people I've told in the past have been very supportive and can't believe that this happened so long ago and that the state took it as far as they did. He had no way of defending himself. I do have to say that he got a good deal ... Would of been better if it was dismissed, but we tried. I feel for those that loved ones get harsher punishments, but am thankful that he only got bench probation, no jail time, registration, no counseling, and he gets to keep his job (he has been very honest with them from the beginning). The judge saw what a good man he has become and really took that into consideration with sentencing (that and the fact that he had the longest PSI report the judge had ever seen...full of great letters from people who love and support him) ... Btw the victim didn't even show up when he was scentenced.

Sacrifice - I'm sorry you are struggling, I do hope that things get better for you. You are in my prayers

off the subject sorry What is a PSI report?

pre sentencing report = psi

sorry.........its pre sentencing investigation

Thanks for posting this question. I've been wondering about that situation also. He's not back in my state yet, but I'm planning ahead :)