Families of Prisoners Support Group
This community is dedicated to families that have been disrupted by prison. Having a loved one incarcerated or having been incarcerated comes with its own unique challenges that require support and understanding. Join the group to find others who know what you're going through, and to seek advice or share your experience.
and I am restless & SO ready to have this move forward, even if it is harder. The past seven months have been intense. I feel stronger, less overwhelmed, more focused, completely determined to learn everything I possibly can from this strange, painful lesson, and more in love than I was before this happened. I miss him, and I wish he was home with me, but something profound is taking place. He's searching his soul, looking at himself, opening up, and becoming a better man. I'm so proud of him, so amazed at his courage, his calmness, his quiet strength...I feel like our life is going to be so much more precious to us, because of what we have been through.
I am praying every day that he is accepted into the Shock program. I know it will be a trial, but we have both changed- we have gained something that will carry us through. We know how much we love one another, and I wonder if we would have really discovered that if we hadn't been put through this hell.
Twelve days, then some more chaos and hardship, and more to learn, for both of us. Every day brings us a new lesson, and every day brings us closer.
I am praying every day that he is accepted into the Shock program. I know it will be a trial, but we have both changed- we have gained something that will carry us through. We know how much we love one another, and I wonder if we would have really discovered that if we hadn't been put through this hell.
Twelve days, then some more chaos and hardship, and more to learn, for both of us. Every day brings us a new lesson, and every day brings us closer.
There have been many times when I have told people that prison can enlighten a person and make him a much better, wiser, stronger, and caring person who begins to really understand the true meaning of life and happiness.
When I mention that to people they look at me like I am crazy, but I have been there and I have seen it happen, as it is happening to your guy.
There are three types of people in prison: 1) those that should not be there, whether they were innocent or they just made a stupid one-time mistake to get into prison. These people are not criminally minded, 2) the career criminals who have made crime their life endeavor----they will never change, and 3) Youngsters, very young men who come to prison for the first time.
The people who are career criminals will never change. Crime and dishonesty has permeated their mind and soul to the point that they couldn't change even if they wanted to.
The youngsters are naive and depending on how they carry themselves in prison they can either become bitter from the experience or become a man and mature.
The inmates that are only there because they made a horrible, stupid one-time mistake--or were innocent--- are the ones like your guy. He is too old to be naive like the youngsters and too honest to be criminally minded as the real convicts, so he is in a class by himself.
These are the types of people that become wiser and stronger than ever because of their prison experience. They become complete human beings and learn what is and what is not really important in life---they become wise beyond their years.
There is a reason for that. In prison, an inmate has a lot of idle time. He does not have to go to the grocery store, he does not have to worry about laundry or meals, as that is done for him. He might have a piddly job during the day, but it really does not amount to much. He no longer has to worry about raising his family, taking care of his wife, or paying any bills. In short, he really has nothing to do but wait around to go home, BUT it also gives an inmate a lot of time to do what he did not have time for when he was on the outsdie------time to really sit down and THINK. He thinks a LOT, about where he came from, what he wants to do in prison, and what he wants to do once he is released. He thinks about things much deeper than ever before, things like relationships, what it means to be a good husband and father, and how he can improve himself as a person.
He now has time to ponder, to think deeply, about things like life, love, and all the attributes that make a person a complete human being. If he is wise, he will learn about things he never thought of before.
He explores his soul to find ways he can be a better husband, father, or just a better man.
Trust me, there is a LOT of soul searching done in prison.
I have seen a lot of youngsters mature almost overnight in prison and a lot of older guys become very wise.
I know he is not in prison yet, but he is locked up just the same.
This is what is happening to your guy. He will be a better man and a stronger person when he gets through this and the love between you and him will be greater than you ever thought possible.
I am so happy for both you and your guy. Angela, you have been a super lady to support your guy that way you have and you two will be together soon.
Remember, when we first met, I TOLD you it would get easier and I told you that you WILL get through this.
You have made me into a prophet. ha ha
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Thank you for your prophecy. ;)
You helped me through some very dark times. I am sovgrateful for you. And I appreciate all of your insight. It's true, he is thinking and learning so much. I can't help but see the gift in this rotten time.
We'll have to wait and see how strong I really am, when he goes up. I hope I can keep the faith. I will do my best.
You're a wonderful friend.