Start a scrapbook of things that you and he like: articles and pictures from magazines or newspapers, stories from the Internet, poems, song lyrics, photographs, recipes, drawings, postcards, etc. You might even want to spray it lightly with your perfume or his cologne or some scent that's meaningful to both of you (a little dab of vanilla? a smudge of garlic?). Then every now and then you can take out the scrapbook and look through it and tell yourself a story about the memory it recalls or the dream it represents. Speak the memory or the dream out loud so it has substance to it and it cannot be forgotten or fade away.

Hmmmm I gotta think about this one!!
I do sleep in one of his tops and boxers and yes I do spray it with his stuff kinda makes me feel like his snuggle into me still. I do listen to music we both like and get him his favorite bands cds when they come out. We also watch the same tv shows....yes odd I know but it's what we do! :)
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Oh, Such, you are so right about watching TV together. My guy and I like to watch Syfy's Defiance on Thursday nights and then talk about the characters and what we think they're going to do next.

My D is funny he sometimes calls me in the middle of one of the shows to see what I think about what's going on and how I think it will end he then starts asking me what's happening in it! Lol :) it's as close to normal we can get!

I'm feeling the same :( can't was for him to be home.
I would say Just remember the days of him being home and how the love you felt for him, not long now and you will be connected again :)

I like the idea of watching the same movies and programs. That's been something nice to talk about. I've already mentioned that journal to you, but if you don't get around to that maybe make up your own questions about his feelings/the future and he can do the same. This really opens up communication and you two can express yourselves to each other.

talk to him about your guyses relationship and be open about it... their is a good book of questions on amazon called
"separated by prison united by conviction" actually one of the support groups i used to be on facebook on published that book. I also used to be a mentor for them. Write him poetry, send him pictures, remind yourself its not forever and only temporary and remind him that... you never know How strong you are until the only choice u have is to be strong.... hope this helps

When he was in before we talked several times a day and I went to see him 3 times a week. NOW the calls are so expensive I get one call a day. Still drive to MN at least twice a day, but it's killing me in gas money.
I write to him, he writes to me, but right now, I am so sad that he was only home 10 months and he messed up so bad. Got in trouble in MN, we live in WI. Only did 38 days in MN, is done with that, but they can't release him. He is waiting for WI to pick him up on the probation violation. It could only be a few days or up to 4.5 years.

Pictures, copies of newspaper articles of things he is interested in such as car races, etc keep him happy. Family pictures, telling him things I do, how people are, what they are doing, keeping him feeling he is still connected out here somehow. BUT there he is again, locked up after only being home 10 months, and the last 4 he put me through hell with his drinking.

Today is a bad day.. just sick of it all, miss him and need the answers as to how much longer this will last. Anyone that knows me on here knows I never give up on him. Just tired of it all, and need him to grow up, take responsibility for his actions out here, to me, and deal with things like most people do. And I told him that.