Oh no, I'm so sorry. That's awful, especially so close to the holidays. I hope getting a lawyer will help him as much as possible, but don't forget to take care of yourself too!

Hello Meeka. Welcome to DS. Sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. That is a heavy burden which was just tossed onto your shoulders. Far too heavy to try to carry alone. I'm rocking you gently and crying with you.

DS is a big site with a large variety of support available. I hope you'll take the time to surf around and see if there is emotional support available in other forums, as well. This forum moves kinda slow for effective, ongoing support and it does sound like you are in for a long haul.

Gentle support while you work it through, Meeka. Welcome aboard.

Thank you I definitely will because I need all the help I can get

Amen, sister, amen. We all need all the help we can get. I hope to see you around the forums. Don't be afraid of cross-posting. I find that making the same post in multiple forums often helps me get a broader set of views to work with.

Still rocking you gently and crying with you. I was born into a prison heritage and there are tears enough for all.

Big hug for you Meeka….. I am so sorry for what you and your family are going through.... as Arfie wrote there are several boards on here that might be of help to you.... Another hug and a blessing....xo

So sorry to hear this. Of course you are devastated.

Are there people you expected to support you who are not? Often that is the case--many people in that kind of situation agree that you definitely find out who your true friends are. I hope you have someone.

If there's any way you can get a counselor/therapist, it would be a good idea. This will be a long road and it's far from a normal life stress.

You should be able to meet an initial time with a lawyer to get an idea of what is coming, what they can do for you, and to feel out if it's someone you can work with, without putting up the whole retainer yet. Definitely ask about finances at the first meeting--they will for sure be keeping track of finances at every step. See if they have payment plans. See if they will give you monthly itemized statements so you know what the lawyer is doing with your money and how much is left. (If they won't, you might want to keep looking.) I don't know too much about getting dependable referrals about who is a good lawyer, but you can at least Google the lawyer's name and see what kind of cases he has been on and what was the outcome. You don't necessarily need a feel-good, nice lawyer, but you want someone who will treat you will respect and who has a shrewd mind. And of course experience in the area you need.

Wish I could give you a hug in person and just let you cry in my arms.

Thank you all. I met with the lawyer today. I did research him and he seems to know the system. He'll be seeing my son tomorrow.

Yes I expected certain people to at least call or text me some words of encouragement or just to ask "how are you?" But it's been none of that. The reason I'm here on these boards, because I know I do not want to do this alone!!

Thank you for you advice and words of comfort. It is appreciated more than you know.

I know this is a difficult time for you and no platitude will help. Take one day at a time and look for little victories as you adapt to the "new normal" My son has been in prison for 4 years on a 25 year sentence and some days I feel ok and other days I can't stop crying. It takes time but you will start to heal. You will never be the same as before but you will get better. I pray your heart starts to heal and that your son is given leniency or acquittal.

I just joined the group and read your post. I pray that all is going well with the case. I hope the attorney you hired will be able to help you. I'm glad you joined the group and I see that you've been getting support from the group. Keep the faith and continue to reach out the group. I will be praying for you and your son.