Hi. I am still awake too... Why do you think you can't sleep? Is it that your mind is going crazy and won't shut off? If so, it will probably get better after sentencing(then at least some of the what if's will stop). At least then I knew what to expect I guess. Sometimes exercise helps me to just get totally exhausted and then I pass out at night. Other days I feel like all I want to do is sleep though LOL. I guess it depends on the day for me. Are you taking any meds that may be keeping you up?

Angela I agree with hope when you find out more and he does get sentenced you'll feel a little better, right now your in limbo and that sucks. I still feel sad some days and some days are just OK but I think that's normal for our situation. Just remember you have a strong support group here and we'll help you through this.
Hugs,
Pat

Hi Hope and Pat,
I'm not taking any medications. I finally went to see someone today and she recommended anti-anxiety meds, now I have to wait for my medicaid to be approved so I can get them. By then I'll most likely have a job and won't qualify! We'll see. I told her I can't sleep and she said the medicine will help that. It's terrible to be so exhausted but unable to sleep.
We thought we'd at least know the court date for sentencing by now, but we haven't heard anything yet. Maybe next week. I really hope he gets sentenced soon so we both now what we're looking at. Not knowing is so hard on both of us. I know you all understand, and I appreciate your kindness so much. I swear I'd be lost without this group.

Angeladam,

There are several anti-anxiety meds in generic form that are reasonably priced.

The generic version of Buspar is on Wal Mart's $4 list, which means you can get a 30 days supply for four dollars.

I am sure your health care professional will work with you on this.

rewdiazepam

Thanks, Rew. I think she was looking at an SSRI bc she thinks that will help. I would prefer just an anti-anxiety medication. Can I just ask for that? I've never really dealt with this before.

If you haven't been sleeping well for awhile, you could be extra anxious because of that. Also, I am no pharmacist, but I believe ssri's are something long term. If you are looking for something to just help you get through the waiting period for sentencing then maybe you should try something else? You could try taking melatonin which is a natural sleep aid you could see if just getting some rest will give you the extra help you need to make it through. If it doesn't work, then at least you got some sleep. :-) Good luck, let us know how it goes! :-)

Hi Angel. The waiting and not knowing is the worst part of all this. Can't you talk to the attorney? THey have dealt with thousands of cases, know the judge, the DA, etc, and they usually have a somewhat good idea about the outcome. They can't make any promises but they can let you know how a lot of these cases get settled. Let us know if you find out anything and take everybody's advice. Exercise is always good and it will make you tired, but a small anxiety drug will help, too.

Celexa is an excellent SSRI. Generic name is citalopram.

Citaloprim is on the Wal Mart four dollar list in both the 20mg and 40mg tables. She might start you off on 10mg per day, so you can get the 20mg and cut them in half.

It takes around a month for the full antidepressant effect to kick in.

If you get started on them and want to stop, the withdrawal must be done very slowly.

Very popular drug, used by millions. Very few side effects and it is safe.

rewdiazepam

Good anti-anxiety drugs----

diazepam (Valium), alprazolam (Xanax), clonopin are all good drugs.

Ativan (lorazepam) is also good, but it is about twice as expensive as the other drugs I mentioned.

rewdiazepam

I have terrible anxiety and just started lexapro 2 weeks ago. My doctor also put me on valium (as needed) until we see some effects from the SSRI. The valium does help me sleep and it doesn't make me groggy during the day. Also began seeing a therapist. Everyone is different though and it can be a process to find what works best for you. Best of luck to you!

Thanks, everyone, for the support. I definitely need more fresh air and exercise. This winter I have stayed inside so much of the time. I used to go snowshoeing and hiking all winter long. I missed it, but honestly just didn't feel like it this year. It's a catch-22; you need the fresh air & exercise to feel better, but you don't feel energetic enough to move.